Awareness. Acceptance. Action. I have been thinking about how I “work the steps” on my grieving. The “3 A’s” of awareness, acceptance, and action give me the key. As I begin to become aware of my grief, I admit my powerlessness, and believe that my higher power can help me to move through…
Read MoreIf I stuff my feelings, they never go away. — Anonymous I spent some time yesterday just feeling my feelings. As I grieve, I have many feelings. Sometimes these come together, sometimes in sequence, some coming, some going, and coming back. There is pain of loss. There is…
Read MoreI am invited to grieve with every change in life. Often I ignore the invitation, deciding the particular change is “no big deal” or telling myself “I can handle this.” Sometimes the culmination of all the “little” changes I haven’t addressed hits me all at once. I find myself overreacting to a person or…
Read MoreMy father gave me the greatest gift anyone could give another person, he believed in me. — Jim Valvano I am a father. When my children were young, I tried to shape their values and their beliefs, in the hope that they would become people I could be proud of. As they grew, they…
Read MoreSome of your hurts you have cured And the sharpest you’ve even survived But what torments of grief you’ve endured From evils which never arrived. — Emerson Oh, boy. What truth there is here. I have spent too much time enduring “torments of grief” from “evils which never arrived.” This is a common activity…
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