Early on, I was told to practice “loving detachment.” I already knew how to do “middle finger detachment,” but detaching with love was a foreign concept. In this “best of” episode from February 2013, Kelli, Swetha, and Spencer share their experience, strength, and hope about this complex topic.
Our topic for next week is hope. Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.
Music from the show
Simon and Garfunkel – I am a Rock
The singer seems not able to detach, and is instead distancing himself, walling off anything that might cause pain and missing out on love in consequence.
Sinead O'Connor – Back Where You Belong
I hear that she really wants to have him in her life (“you have to wear life well”), but recognizes that he has his own things to do, and “for now I want you to be happy.”
Hi,
I’m fairly new to podcasts all together, and yours has helped me a great deal. Detachment. What a word! Detachment with Love? Yes please, how do I do that?
Also, are there any tools for someone who’s loved one is a binge drinker? I’m told by this person AA isn’t effective because the need to drink every day is non-existent (sounds like an excuse to me…). I also don’t know how detachment works with such a drinker(?) as there are usually several weeks between episodes.
Any advice is appreciated!
Thank you for doing this beautiful thing, it has changed me.
Sincerely,
Lisa
Hi, Lisa
One thing I have heard and say to others is that it doesn’t matter whether a person labels themself as an alcoholic — that is their decision. What matters is how their drinking affects us. We can find recovery no matter the label.
Keep coming back!