Step 12 suggests that we “practice these principles in all our affairs”. What does this mean to you? How do you do it?

Definition: principle

  1. a fundamental truth or proposition that serves as the foundation for a system of belief or behavior or for a chain of reasoning.

The AA 12 principles from the book 12 Steps and 12 Traditions

  1. HONESTY – Fairness and straight forwardness of conduct: adherence to the facts.
  2. HOPE – To expect with desire; something on which hopes are centered.
  3. FAITH – Complete confidence; belief and trust.
  4. COURAGE – Firmness  of  mind  and  will  in  the  face  of  extreme  difficulty;  mental  or  moral  strength  to withstand fear.
  5. INTEGRITY – The quality or state of being complete or undivided; soundness.
  6. WILLINGNESS – Prompt to act or respond; accepted and done of choice or without reluctance.
  7. HUMILITY – Not proud or haughty; not arrogant or assertive; a clear and concise understanding of what we are, followed by a sincere desire to become what we can be.
  8. LOVE – Unselfish concern that freely accepts another in loyalty and seeks his good to hold dear.
  9. DISCIPLINE – Training that corrects, molds, or perfects the mental faculties or moral character; to bring under control; to train or develop by instruction.
  10. PATIENCE/PERSEVERANCE – Steadfast despite opposition or adversity; able or willing to bear; to persist in an understanding in spite of counter influences.
  11. AWARENESS – Alive and alert; vigilance in observing.
  12. SERVICE – A  helpful  act;  contribution  to  the  welfare  of  others;  useful  labor  that  does  not  produce  a tangible commodity.
  • What do you consider to be “these principles”?
  • Why is it important to practice them “in all your affairs”?
  • What does the word “practice” say to you?
  • How have your life and your relationships been changed by practicing this step?
  • What tools help you to practice these principles?
  • How to carry them “out of the rooms and into traffic.”
  • How have you used Al-Anon recovery principles in your life, and how were your actions, feelings, and reactions different?

Readings and Links

We read from How Al-Anon Works Step 12 discussion in Chapter 8.

The reading referred to the book In All Our Affairs.

Elizabeth read from One Day at a Time in Al-Anon, November 4 (p. 309).

Upcoming topics

Our topic for next week is honesty. what does a lack of honesty with ourselves and others look like and what does the program teach us about the importance of honesty to our recovery?

Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.

Music from the Show

The Avett Brothers – No Hard Feelings
Indigo Girls – Hammer and a Nail
FC Kanuna – Hayling

2 comments on “In All Our Affairs – 365

  1. Elza M says:

    They say the “principles” of the program ARE the 12 Steps. That’s why you won’t find them anywhere else. Some have dwindled them down to one word to be helpful – I love them – but really the principles ARE the 12 Steps hence the lack of “Alanon Principles” they are the same as the AA Principles 🙂

  2. Carialta G says:

    Hello Spencer and Eric,
    I am a grateful member of Al-anon. For me the 12 steps of AA apply to me in Al-anon because my addiction is relationships. I believe replacing alcohol with relationships throughout the steps brings me the same relief as an alcoholic. I may not have a genetic predisposition or an allergy to alcohol like an alcoholic but being raised in an alcoholic home predisposed me to the same disfunction: my relationships got crazier and crazier. It wasn’t broken bottles around me, it was broken people and I was one of them.
    Those “coins” you spoke of at the beginning of the show are the same coins I use in Al-anon: powerlessness, hope, strength, fearless, humility, forgiveness, etc.
    For me, the AA books are the Al-anon books.
    Thank you for sharing your experience, strength and hope on your shows.
    CiCi from Seattle

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