If I’m not the problem, then there is no solution. Huh? How does this make sense for my recovery.
Spencer, Eric and several listeners share our thoughts about this idea.
- How would you have felt about this statement before you came into recovery?
- In what ways were you trying to fix other people’s problems?
- Which of those problems was actually yours?
- How did trying to fix someone else’s problems make you feel?
- What did you hear when you came to Al-Anon that encouraged you to think differently?
- What does this statement mean to you now?
- How does that affect/change your behavior?
- How is it liberating?
- How does it contribute to less unmanageability and more serenity in your life?
- Some problems I have
- Failing to LET GO. My problem becomes, that I will be dragged. Example, my (Eric) marriage. Going to AA to take the medicine, to cure her disease.
- If I fail to set healthy boundaries, I will become a doormat, and accept unacceptable behavior, and become resentful, angry, and irritable, without knowing it…
- If I do not practice the art of listening, intently, with an OPEN MIND, I will not hear, understand, and lose my ability to have choices, and choose a response, that is healthy and best FOR ME.
- These and many other problems, are OF MY OWN MAKING. The solutions are of my OWN choosing. I have the power to change this “stinking thinking”.
- What solutions have we found?
I can’t change the weather, the traffic, and I cannot drive the car in front of me. No matter how much I want to… I CAN change, my perspective, my outlook, and my attitude towards it.
There is a solution. I / we all, have the power to awaken within us, the courage to change, the things we can. And, I have come to know that that thing, is ME.
I will Let It Begin With Me.
Readings and Links
We read from How Al-Anon Works: p. 20 (in Chapter 4) Seeking Solutions for Ourselves, and Tradition 5, p. 113.
Gina told us about another Al-Anon podcast: www.al-anonuk.org.uk/podcasts
We were reminded of these other episodes:
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