Perspective – Episode 258

What does it mean to “place our problem in its true perspective”? Can a change in perspective change everything?

    • Our suggested opening says “as we learn to place our problem in its true perspective, we find it loses its power to dominate our thoughts and our lives”.
    • What is perspective?
      • From
      • the state of one's ideas, the facts known to one, etc., in having a meaningful interrelationship: You have to live here a few years to see local conditions in perspective.
      • the faculty of seeing all the relevant data in a meaningful relationship: Your data is admirably detailed but it lacks perspective.
      • a mental view or prospect: the dismal perspective of terminally ill patients.
      • a way of regarding situations, facts, etc, and judging their relative importance
      • the proper or accurate point of view or the ability to see it; objectivity: try to get some perspective on your troubles
      • Scrabble points: 26
    • Perception and attitude: perception is how i see things. Attitude is how I react. ( )
    • How do I lose perspective?
      • (Over) reacting in the moment.
      • Dramatizing / awfulizing
      • Minimizing (denial)
      • Not looking at “the bigger picture”
    • What happens when I lose perspective?
    • How can I “put things in perspective” (
      • Ask yourself what is the cost to you and others of your reaction?
      • Observe and describe rather than judging.
        • HALT (Am I hungry angry lonely, or tired?, WAIT (why am i talking), THINK (thoughtful, honest, intelligent, necessary, kind)
      • What can you still do? (Serenity prayer, first things first)
        • Pause
        • Serenity prayer
      • Ask how you will feel in a week? A month? A year?
        • Regret, shame, guilt? 8th step list?
        • How important will this seem in the future?
      • Consider it as an inconvenience instead of the “end of the world.”
      • “Rational” comes from “ratio” — consider proportion
    • Making crisis work for us ( )
      • Breaking through denial
      • Slowly rising awareness
      • Sudden revelation
    • TED talk “transformative power of classical music”  — Story (from The Art of Possibility) about shoe salesmen in Africa, opportunity, and perspective.\
    • Program tools
      • Serenity prayer
      • Let go and let God
      • How important is it?
    • Quotes: and


How Al-Anon Works:

  • Chapter 16: Tradition 1
  • Part 2, Chapter 16, “A Nun finds Spiritual Peace”
  • Part 2, chapter 31, “Letting Go of a Loved One’s Alcohol, Drug, and Money Problems”

Courage to Change

  • January 27, “sometimes dirty dishes are just dirty dishes” (How Important is it?)
  • June 24 — “It wasn’t much of a day for egg-laying, but it was a great day for music!”

Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.

Music from the show

Duffy: Put it in Perspective

John Mayer: Stop this Train

John Mayer: Clarity

Bob Dylan: Simple Twist of Fate



1 comment on “Perspective – Episode 258

  1. Tania says:

    Hi Spencer:
    I’ve been listening to the show for many months and this is the first time I’m writing in. I recently listened to the episode about perspective. You gave examples of sudden awareness. I experience this at my very first Al-Anon meeting over a year ago. The topic was truth. I was very fortunate that it resonated with me so much that I have been attending bi- weekly meetings for over a year now. What I came to understand at that meeting is that I had been denying my own truth throughout my 25 year marriage. I knew that my husband was an alcoholic but as long as he denied it I told myself that I was crazy. I was in so much denial that when my children repeatedly asked me if daddy was drunk I told them that he was “tipsy” because I thought was less scary than a drunk father. The awareness that I could trust my own truth has been transformational.

    I don’t know if you’ve ever done an episode on truth. If you haven’t I would be happy to participate.

    I appreciate all of the work that you and your cohosts put into each podcast. Thank you for your service.

    God bless,
    Tania A

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