Do you obsess over the thought that your loved one might be lying? Do you have to prove the lies? How do you find the ability to trust in recovery?
Julia joins Spencer to talk about lies, guided by these questions.
- How have you been lied to (in relationships with an alcoholic or addict)?
- How have you lied to yourself?
- How did you react to lies prior to recovery?
- Did you become angry? withdraw?
- Did you deny them? Ignore them?
- Did you make excuses for your loved one’s behavior?
- What else?
- Can you see your loved one’s lies as a symptom of the disease?
- What tools have you used to stay “sane” when you are lied to? How?
- Detachment?
- Boundaries?
- When does lying become a “deal breaker”?
- How do you rebuild trust in your loved one?
- Are there things you still can’t trust about them or your relationship?
Upcoming topics include the 4 L's, listen, learn, let go, and love; and Concepts of service 11 and 12. Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.
Music from the show
Chvrches: Lies
Depeche Mode: Policy of Truth
Christina Perri: Jar of Hearts