In recovery we listen to each other; we learn from each other’s experience strength and hope; we let go of our need to control others; and find love for them. These are the 4 L's.
Spencer and Pat discuss “listen, learn, let go, and love”, prompted by these questions.
- Do you try to fix others if they are sharing a problem or difficulty?
- Do you have to “be right” or have the last word in discussions or arguments?
- Do you feel you have to convince others of your point of view?
- When someone disagrees with you do you feel inadequate? do get angry or defensive?
- Do you have difficulty moving from PAUSE to saying something that uses the THINK (Is what you are going to say Thoughtful, Honest, Intelligent, Necessary or Kind) principle?
- What am I learning when I practice the 4 L’s?
- What am I letting go of when I practice the 4 L’s?
- How does listen and learn apply to Al-anon meetings?
- Do you take care of everyone else’s needs before listening to and addressing your own?
- Do others’ needs take priority before you care for yourself?
Upcoming topics include Surviving the Holidays, and Concepts 11 and 12. Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email firstname.lastname@example.org with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.
Music from the show
Simon and Garfunkel: The Sound of Silence
Great Big Sea: Let it go
Rent: Seasons of Love