If you put your loved one’s needs ahead of your own… If you feel that others’ happiness is your responsibility… If your response to “what do you want for dinner” is “what do you want?” … Then you’ve come to the right place, because today, we’re going to talk about codependency.
Spencer took this one solo, trying to follow this rough outline:
- Wikipedia says “Codependency is defined as a psychological condition or a relationship in which a person is controlled or manipulated by another who is affected with a pathological condition (typically narcissism or drug addiction); and in broader terms, it refers to the dependence on the needs of, or control of, another. It also often involves placing a lower priority on one's own needs, while being excessively preoccupied with the needs of others.”
- Did you have any understanding of codependency before you came into recovery? Had you even heard of it?
- When did you first hear of codependency? What did you think it meant then?
- How has your understanding of codependency changed?
- In what ways do you have codependent behavior?
- How have you recovered from your own codependent behavior? What program tools do you use?
- How do you deal with other people’s codependent behavior?
- In your family?
- With friends?
- With co-workers?
Upcoming topics include Tradition 4, forgiveness, and how to take recovery with you when you travel. Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email firstname.lastname@example.org with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.
Music from the show
Lori McKenna: Drinkin' Problem
Misty Lyn and the Big Beautiful: Drowning's Better (with your friends)
Coldplay: Fix You
After I finished recording, I received an email from Julia who recommended “Can't Smile Without You” by Barry Manilow as “the most codependent song ever.” It's hard to disagree: