“If you are irritated by every rub, how will your mirror be polished?” ― Rumi Someone once told me that the universe has a way of giving us the same tests over and over until we pass. When I heard that, I thought that was quite mean of the universe to do so. After…

  “Don’t give in to your fears. If you do, you won’t be able to talk to your heart.” ― Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist At some point, I realized that, for me, anger is not the opposite of peace. Neither is control. Nor is hate or judgment. All of these are the children of fear….

  We shall find peace. We shall hear angels. We shall see the sky sparkling with diamonds. -Anton Chekov I would like to take today to be thankful for the program of recovery, the fellowship, and the steps of Al-anon. I got some positive news about a personal issue that I was presented with in…

  Let Others Voluntarily Evolve I have often found myself in situations where I thought that love was getting someone to change for what I thought was better. In those situations, I was often, if not always, frustrated and disappointed. The other person would rebuff my attempts or, worse, lie to me by saying they…

    Once you have crossed the river, leave the raft behind. – The Buddha   As I was growing up, and later as I struggled to survive in an alcoholic relationship, I learned coping skills. While those skills might have helped in the past, they are now at the root of many of my…