“Absorb what is useful, discard what is not, add what is uniquely your own.”
I realize, at times, that I often look outwardly for answers or an absolute solution to my problems and issues. But the truth of the matter is, no one but me has any answers for my life. Everyone else can only share their experience. However, I generally have a difficult time trusting myself because I tend to see things in terms of absolute wrong and right or absolute black and white. However, there is a lot of grey area. Many times, in the past, this has led to a lot of disappointment and resentment for me because the person that I turned to to make decisions for me was also human. They had no perfect solutions. That was a role I forced upon them rather than taking responsibility for my own choices. Today, I will try to respect other people's words and views for what they are (a shared experience) rather than putting them up on a pedestal and internalizing their ideas as an absolute truth. Instead, I will hear what they are saying, meditate on it, and take what I feel comfortable with and leave the rest. Today, I will meditate on the idea that no one has an absolute answer for anyone else. Only I am qualified to make decisions and choices for my own life. And I am only qualified to make decisions and choices for my own life.
A meditation for January 14, 2013.
Fix You – Coldplay