Willingness – Episode 216

A member asked another member to be their sponsor. The response was, “Are you willing to do what I did for as long as I did it to get what I have?” What would your answer be? Where does that willingness come from?

  • Definition
  • What does this word mean to me today?
  • How is that different from how I understood it in the past?
  • Where does willingness appear in the Steps?
  • Step 3: Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
  • Step 8: Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.
  • But also: Step 4 — willingness to look deeply at ourselves.
  • Step 5 and 6 — willingness to change.
  • Step 11 — willingness to deepen our relationship with a higher power.
  • In fact, we can find it in all the steps!
  • Eric noted that you can put the word “willing” in front of each step: Step 1, “Became willing to admit we were powerless…”, etc.
  • Acronym: HOW — Honest, Open, and Willing. This is HOW the program of recovery works.
  • How did I become willing?
    • Examples of others — your stories of using the principles of the program in your own recovery helped me be willing to try them for myself.
    • Pain — “hitting bottom” over and over in different ways. Eventually willing to try something, anything new.

A few tidbits from the episode:

Psychology Today article: 5 Ways to Really Get Closer to Each Other

Phone meetings web site.

And the quote from Marilyn Monroe that Spencer mentioned: “Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.”

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Made a Decision – Episode 67

20130814-130029.jpgI’ve titled today’s episode Made a Decision. I am going to relate my the story of my journey to and through Step 3, “Made a decision to turn our will and our live over to  the care of God as we understood God.” I started from unbelief, was told to “act as if”, found willingness, and eventually surrendered. But still, I must give my will over on a daily basis, because I continue to try to take it back.

  • My Story
    • What is this “God” thing of which you speak?
    • How can I turn my will and my life over to something I don’t believe in?
    • “Act as if”
    • Letting go of my loved one’s recovery (or lack thereof)
    • The meeting and the program as my HP
    • A later understanding of surrender — just going to meetings
    • Unmanageability as motivation
    • Evidence of God working in my life
    • Growing willingness
    • Surrender
    • God suggests — sometimes I listen
    • Daily practice
  • What holds me back?
    • My intellect
    • Fear (of losing control)
    • Desire for my outcome
  • What pushed me forward
    • Clear unmanageability of life
    • Seeing it work — when I listened
    • My will has often led me into trouble
  • Change requires changing — letting go of old ways — I can’t do it alone

Our topic for next week is Forgiveness. Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.

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What does God look like? – An open talk

In this talk, Bob asks and gives his answer to the question “What does God look like?” I think you will like his answer. He explores his experience of what life is like when he follows God’s will for him, and how much better it has been than when he listens to the lies his mind tells him. Bob is an alcoholic, but I identified strongly with most of what he had to say. The audio quality is not good, but stay with it. It’s worth it. I think this talk is from the 1970s, because he talks about “when they started this thing 40 years ago.”

 

Step 8 – Episode 35

peace at sunsetIf you are struggling with guilt and resentment over your actions in the past… If you aren’t ready to make amends to someone… If you think that you deserve an amends before you make one… You’ve come to the right place. Keep listening as we discuss STEP 8.

Kelli, Spencer, and Swetha share our own experiences with Step 8, as we try to address these questions and others:

How do you decide if you have “harmed” someone? (what was the act? why did we do it? What were the consequences?)
Have you made a list? How did you go about it? (use your 4th step?)
How do you “become willing” to make amends?
What if there are people you are not willing to make amends to?
Can you be willing to become willing?
What about people who owe you amends?
Did you make it onto your list? Why is it important to include yourself?
What is the difference between willingness and actually making the amends?
What part does honesty play in this process?
Did you review your list with anyone before planning amends? Did they make any suggestions to you? What did/ could you learn from them?
Does your HP get included in this step?

This episode was our first experiment at live broadcast through Mixlr.com. Join us on Monday, August 12, at 6PM EDT (2200 GMT) as we record our next episode on self-acceptance and self-esteem. You can listen to our raw, unedited conversation, and interact with us and other listeners in the chat room. Just click on the “listen live” link to the right. If you “Follow” us on Mixlr, you will automatically receive an email notification when we start broadcasting.

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