Tradition 7 – Episode 79


How is Al-Anon funded? Why don’t we take outside contributions? What if we all lived our lives that way? Tradition 7 states “Every group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions.”

Spencer and Ruth discuss these questions and others as we explore our understanding of Tradition 7.

  • The statement of this tradition is pretty clear. Why do you think we have this tradition?
  • How does Tradition 7 relate to Tradition 6, which says, in part, “Our Family Groups ought never endorse, finance or lend our name to any outside enterprise, lest problems of money, property and prestige divert us from our primary spiritual aim.”
  • Are there other ways, besides financial, in which our groups are self-supporting?
  • How can I be of service to my meeting(s)? How have I been of service?
  • How do I use this tradition in my personal life?
  • How am I self supporting
    • Financially?
    • Socially?
    • Spiritually?
    • Emotionally?
    • Mentally?
    • Physically?
  • How have I felt when I was dependent on others?
  • Have I expected that “the world” owed me? In what ways? How did I feel? How did I act?
  • How has my self-worth depended on being needed by others?
  • Do I take responsibility for my feelings and my actions? Do I blame others for how I feel?
  • How do I contribute to my own well-being?
  • How can I be fully self-supporting?

Our topic for next week is What does it mean to work the steps?. Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.
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living fully here and now – a meditation



We are not to retreat from life, pinning our hopes on ‘elsewhere,' but to know that we will come to that final destination best by living fully here and now, be it through joy, or pain, or a mix of both.

– Madeleine L'Engle, The Rock That Is Higher

I spent much of my life trying to get fulfillment and happiness from other people. I needed you to be happy so that I could be happy. I needed you to like me so that I could like me. I needed your approval so that I could approve of myself. I needed your attention so that I would not be alone with myself. You were the ‘elsewhere' on which I pinned my hopes.

Through the Steps, I am finding my way to a life that is supported from within me, with the aid of my Higher Power. I have learned that I control my own happiness, and I am not responsible for yours. The love that my Higher Power has for me is helping me to love myself. Through Steps 4-9, I see my strengths and assets, have asked my Higher Power to remove my shortcomings, and am amending my behaviors to a way of living that is consonant with my values. Step 11 is helping me to be comfortable in my skin, and to find serenity in solitude and calm. Through my continuing spiritual awakening, I spend more time living fully in the here and now, more time as myself. I find myself less in need of you to define who I am, and am thus able to enjoy your companionship for what it is, enriching rather than shaping my life.

A meditation for September 19, 2013.

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consequences – a meditation


You are free to choose, but you are not free from the consequence of your choice.

Being in the grips of indecision is not a foreign concept to me. I have often found myself in this situation. It was often not the fear of the choices, but rather a fear of the consequences. This fear, for me, was so great that I turned to others to tell me what to do – to make a choice for me. I simply did not trust myself to make the right choice. I thought by asking someone else, I would be safer because it would not be me that makes the choice.

I was wrong. I am always making choices. I can choose to follow someone else's advice. I can choose to not make a choice. And no one, no matter how hard I try, can make those choices for me. And by making these choices, I am able to grow and learn from my consequences. As a result, I was able to learn to trust myself. rather than judge myself as good or bad. Instead, I learned I was human, just like everyone else.

A meditation for September 13, 2013.

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Self Acceptance and Self Esteem – Episode 36

Do you often judge yourself? Do you internalize the criticism of others?  Are you afraid they are right? Are you unable to like yourself? Then listen as Swetha, Spencer, and special guest host Erika talk about self acceptance and self esteem.

We share our experience, strength, and hope around questions such as these:

What is self acceptance?
How is that different from self esteem?
Where is the line between having self esteem and being an egomaniac?
How can I be self accepting and not in denial about my flaws?
Why is important to have self acceptance or self esteem?
Is self acceptance necessary for healthy self esteem?
How has Al-Anon helped my self acceptance and self esteem?
Can I be self accepting and motivated to change at the same time? How?
How can I have self esteem without being egotistical?
How can the love of my Higher Power help me find self acceptance?

Our topic for next week is juggling vs balance. Do you sometimes feel that you’re trying to keep too many balls in the air at once? Do you hear people talk about a balanced life and wonder what they mean? Do you struggle with too much to do and not enough time to do it all? Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.

We will be recording episode 37 starting at 10:00 EDT (14:00 GMT), Saturday August 17, 2013. You can listen live at, and interact with us in the chat room as we are recording. If you have an iPhone, iPod or iPad, you will need the mixlr app.
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