“An idealist is one who, on noticing a rose smells better than a cabbage, concludes it will also make better soup.”
— H. L. Mencken
Frequently, I have a picture in my head of how something should be or how some event should go. When my image does not match reality, I am usually projecting some ideal vision of my life onto the real world. Naturally they don't match. I have learned to check my expectations against what really is, to try to stay centered in the here and now. While things may not look as rosy that way, I am also less likely to be disappointed than when I hold unrealistic, idealized expectations. Roses don't make good soup. My life is more serene when I can enjoy roses for what they are, and cabbage for what it is.
A meditation for February 12, 2013.