Stepping Stones to Serenity Part 4 – Episode 165


perfectThis is part 4 of a 4-part seminar titled “Stepping Stones to Serenity”, presented by Ellen C in 2008. This part covers steps 10 through 12.

The previous episodes are

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Spiritual Practice – Episode 94

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How do you feed your spirit? Do you struggle with prayer and meditation? What does it mean to be “spiritual?”

 

Spencer shares his thoughts about spiritual practices, and invites you to share your own spiritual practices by voice mail or email.

  • What is a spiritual practice?
  • What is the purpose/goal of spiritual practices?
    • Connection with the divine, something greater than myself.
    • Centering.
    • Feeds my spirit/soul.
  • What practices are suggested in the 12 steps?
  • What is prayer?
  • What is meditation?
  • What are some (other) examples of spiritual practices?Sitting/walking in nature.
    • Attitude of gratitude
    • Deep breath
    • Dance
    • Song
    • Journaling

Our topic for next week is Tradition 11, which says “Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio, films, and TV. We need guard with special care the anonymity of all AA members.” Join our conversation. Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.

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Forgiveness – Episode 68

Holocaust memorial, Berlin, GermanyDo you have trouble forgiving the alcoholic or addict in your life? Have you carried hurts long after the person who hurt you is gone from your life? How can we forgive without forgetting? Let’s talk about forgiveness.

Spencer and Erika share their experience, strength, and hope about forgiveness, and try to address these questions.

What do the quotes that we opened the show with say to you about forgiveness?
How does this compare to the way you used to think about forgiveness?
Did you (or do you) think about forgiveness as giving a “free pass” to the person who hurt you?
Do you now think about forgiveness as “a gift you give to yourself”? (Or can you be willing to think about it that way now?)
How can forgiveness connect to the love of your higher power?
What Al-Anon tools can you use to help move from anger and resentment to forgiveness?
Inventory — seeing “my part” (and I there is almost always “my part” as well as “their part”)
Compassion — especially helpful for me in finding forgiveness for my alcoholic loved one’s actions during her active disease.
Prayer and meditation. Praying for the person I want to forgive, even if it’s just the “SOB prayer.”
Seeing that the other person is a human being, with faults, and that they were doing the best they knew at the time.
Setting boundaries to prevent the hurt from happening again.
How can I find forgiveness for myself, for my past actions that hurt others? (Same tools?)
What about “unforgiveable” behaviors? How can I let them go so that they’re not continuing to affect my serenity and continuing to drag me down?

Our topic for next week is Tradition 4. Upcoming topics include living with active alcoholism and taking recovery on the road.  Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.
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Intuition or God’s Will? – Episode 61

4573663924_fc40cceefd_bHow do I know my Higher Power’s will, which I am told to pray for in Step 11? Is Intuition the same thing?

Spencer does this one solo, with written participation by Ruth and Adrienne. He starts from this outline:

  • What is intuition?
    • in·tu·i·tion
    • 1. the ability to understand something immediately, without the need for conscious reasoning.
    • synonyms: instinct, intuitiveness
    • 2. a thing that one knows or considers likely from instinctive feeling rather than conscious reasoning.
  • How do I know the will of my higher power?
    • Step 11: “conscious contact” through prayer and meditation
    • Make time to listen to HP
    • Go to meetings
    • Calm. Gut feeling.
    • Daily surrender (Step 3 / 7 prayers)
  • Can intuition be the voice of my higher power?
    • “Conscious contact” vs “instinctive / without conscious reasoning”
    • “still small voice”
  • What are warning signs that it is not my HP’s will?
    • Trying to control
      • Another person
      • outcomes
    • Dropping/ignoring program actions (meetings, reading, P&M)
    • unmanageability, stress
    • scrambling, frenetic, frantic

Our topic for next week is changed attitudes. Can we change our attitudes? How? Is it something we can do consciously or does it “just happen” as we work the program? Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.

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Step 11 – Episode 50

Have you established a routine of prayer and meditation? Do you struggle with them? Are you not sure how to know God’s will? Yes! Today, we’re going to talk about Step 11, which says “Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God, as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of his will for us and the power to carry it out.

Spencer and Maria talk about Step 11, guided by these questions:

  • What is your understanding of “prayer”? “meditation”?
  • How are these different from before the program? Early in the program?
  • Do you have a regular practice of prayer and meditation?
  • What is it?
  • How has it changed over time?
  • How have you sought to improve your conscious contact with your Higher Power?
  • How does praying only for knowledge of his will differ from how you prayed before the program?
  • How do you know if you understand God’s will?
  • Final thoughts — how is Step 11 working in your life?

Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.
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