Recovery with Young Children – Episode 243

How do you talk to your children about recovery? What have they asked you?

Spencer talks with Megan about how she talks to her children about recovery. We are joined by shares from several listeners. Our conversation was wide-ranging, touching on topics from the list below.

  • What questions have your children asked you about
    • Alcoholism/addiction?
    • Recovery?
    • Meetings?
    • Therapy? (“talk doctor”)
    • Their father?
    • Divorce?
  • What have you said to them…?
    • Mommy and Daddy’s first priority is to make sure that you are safe…
    • It's never your fault when adults drink and act badly.
  • How do you model recovery / healthy behavior for your children?
    • Do they reflect it back?
  • How do you communicate differently to different age children?
  • What do you still struggle with in communicating to your children about alcoholism and recovery?
  • What have you NOT told your children? Why?
  • Do your children attend meetings?
  • Would you bring your children to a meeting if it was the only way you could go?
  • When did you need to put your recovery needs ahead of your children?
  • Do you feel that you owe amends to your children?
    • What for?
    • (How) have you made amends?

Megan quoted from the Al-Anon Family Groups pamphlet, How Can I Help My Children?   

A listener asked about whether we have transcripts of the podcast. We don't. The best explanation I've found for why not is a blog post titled “The Dream of converting podcasts to text.

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Face to face meetings, why are they important? – Episode 57

Have you ever wondered, “Why do I need to go to meetings? Can’t I just read the literature?” Today, Spencer and Wendy talk about Face to Face meetings and why they are important.

Our discussion was guided by these questions:

What resources have you used / do you use in your program?

  • Meetings
  • Reading Al-Anon literature
  • Daily reader
  • Sponsor
  • Phone list
  • Individual meetings with program members
  • Small group (“AWOL”)
  • Email
  • Online meetings
  • Podcasts
  • Blogs
  • Social media
  • Journaling
  • etc.

How have these helped you? How is each different from the others?
Could you do your program without going to meetings?
What do you get from meetings that you don’t get from other resources?
How does going to a meeting help others? How does it help to build a community of recovery?
Has there been a time when you were unable to or just didn’t go to meetings? What did you do then?

Our topic for next week is Relapse. A listener wrote, suggesting this topic, “I think relapse would be a good topic.  So many of us, parents especially, naively believe that our loved ones will emerge from rehab as if from a car wash–scrubbed clean and ready to go.  As we've all learned through hard experience, it's not that easy, since addiction, alcoholism and codependency are spiritual illnesses that only long-term spiritual recovery work can address.” Have you experienced relapse of your loved one? Did you see it coming? Or were you “on the pink cloud”? How did you react or respond to the relapse? Please call us at 734-707-8795 , use the voice mail button to the right, or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.
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