letting go

Jennifer – Free from Obsession – 302

Jennifer’s adult son has been drinking alcoholically for his entire adult life, some 30 years. She wrote and offered to tell her story, where she is now living a wonderful life, free of the obsession to do something. She loves him, she is concerned about his well-being and health, but that doesn’t consume her life…

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Begin in Stillness – Episode 231

Begin the new year in stillness, in contemplation of the year past and the year to come. What do you want to let go of from the last year? Write it down. Destroy what you have written (burn it, dissolve it in water, or crumple it up and throw it in the trash.) You don’t…

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In All Our Affairs – Episode 201

Step 12 says “… we tried … to practice these principles in all our affairs“. It’s easy to say but harder to do. Al-Anon doesn’t do me much good if I pick and choose where I’m going to put it into practice. Program works best when I embrace it wholeheartedly: give up my excuses, rationalizations,…

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Obsessive Thinking – Episode 197

Do you obsess over your loved one’s drinking? Do you keep chewing over past actions or wrongs done to you? How can we stop? What is obsessive thinking? What are some other words? Wallowing (in negativity/fear/anger) Resentment (as we discussed last week) Ruminating / chewing over (past wrongs / future problems) Looping What sorts of…

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Forgiveness is critical to recovery – Episode 174

What does it mean to forgive? Why do we talk of “finding” forgiveness? And who really gains from forgiveness? What does forgiveness mean? Dictionary Merriam Webster has this simple definition of the word forgive: “to stop feeling anger toward (someone who has done something wrong) : to stop blaming (someone)” And also this: “to give…

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