Negative into Positive– Episode 247

Nancy S speaks on “Negative into Positive” in this talk from 1987.

A listener asked about the story with the repeating phrase “maybe so, maybe not.” There are many versions of this on the internet. Here is one.

What have been your experience when what you thought was a negative became a positive?  Or vice-versa?

Links

The letter that Amber sent can be found on the Al-Anon blog.

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Making a Decision – Episode 233

Step 3 asks us to “make a decision” to turn our will to the care of a higher power. Why is this so hard for many of us?

I looked back over 15 years at the 3 times I have worked step 3, and found the answers I wrote in 2002, 2011, and 2017 for these questions about making a decision.

  • Step 3: Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
  • How do I feel about turning my life over to a Higher Power for guidance?
  • How do I know who or what my Higher Power is?
  • Am I willing to turn my problems over? What could help me be willing?
  • How can I stop thinking, trying, and considering, and actually make a decision?
  • Have I had a problem making decisions in my life? Give examples.
    If I am unable to make a decision, what holds me back?

How would you answer these questions? Share your responses so we can read them in a future episode.

Upcoming are two more parent episodes. For one episode, please share your experience, strength, and hope about being the parent of an alcoholic or addict.  For the other, how has recovery changed the way you are a parent? Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.
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Serenity – Episode 167

SunriseWhat is serenity, anyway? And how do you get it?

Let’s start with a definition: (dictionary.com)

1. the state or quality of being serene, calm, or tranquil; sereneness.
2. A title of honor, respect, or reverence, used in speaking of or to a certain member of royalty (usually preceded by his, your, etc).

Synonyms
1. Composure, calm, peacefulness, peace.

Antonyms
1. Agitation

  • How did you conceive of serenity before recovery?
  • Did you think your whole life had to be “serene” in order for you to have personal serenity?
  • How did you act in ways that pushed serenity out of my life?
  • When you heard the Al-Anon suggested welcome, did these words make sense to you?
    • Did they seem unattainable?
    • Did they give you hope?

      “We urge you to try our program. It has helped many of us find solutions that lead to serenity. So much depends on our own attitudes, and as we learn to place our problem in its true perspective, we find it loses its power to dominate our thoughts and our lives.”

  • Do you recall experiencing serenity, perhaps briefly, as you started to work the program?
    • What happened?
    • What did it feel like?
    • How did you recognize it?
  • Reading: Hope for Today, May 20.

    “The serenity I am offered in Al-Anon is not an escape from life. Rather it is the power to find peacefulness within life.”
    “Al-Anon does not promise me freedom from pain, sorrow, or difficult situations. It does, however, give me … the necessary skills for maintaining peace of mind, even when life seems most unbearable.”

  • What tools have you found for maintaining or restoring your serenity?
    • Trust in a Higher Power. Let go and let God.
    • Detachment.
    • Just for today.
    • One day at a time.
    • Talk to a program friend.
  • “Exercising” spiritual “muscles” by working the steps, going to meetings, reading the literature, etc.
  • Do you think serenity is a state of being, or an attitude? Or a little of both?
  • What would you say to a newcomer who is living a life full of “agitation” with little or no serenity?

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God of our Understanding – Episode 143

hope through adversityWhat did you think when you saw the word “God” in the 12 steps? Did you think you would be forced to believe in some particular religion? Or did you think you couldn’t find help because you didn’t believe in God?

Two speakers from a NA convention share their experience finding a God of their understanding. (From the Recovery Radio Network.)

Our topic for next week is the first in a series on the “gifts of Al-Anon.”

We will become mature, responsible individuals with a great capacity for joy, fulfillment, and wonder. Though we may never be perfect, continued spiritual progress will reveal to us our enormous potential.

How have you found this coming true in your life? Or are you still waiting?

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Step 2 – Higher Power – Episode 127

 

Bonneville Salt Flats

Spencer is traveling, so here's a favorite episode from our back catalog. Kelli, Swetha, and Spencer talk about their experience with Step 2, “Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.” The episode is bracketed by a short intro and closing recorded in the northern Utah desert.

Upcoming topics include Concepts 8, 9, and 10; how to cope when your loved one lies; and living with the possibility of relapse and death.  If you haven't responded to the “lead” in Episode 126, on clearing a path, please do. You can call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.