Step 10 – Inventory – Episode 48

gentleDo you struggle to admit that you are “wrong” in the moment? Have you found an effective way to take a daily inventory?  How do you feel about admitting your wrongs?  What exactly does this step mean by “promptly”?  Do you feel better when you make a 10th step amends? Then stick around, because  today, we’re going to talk about Step 10.

 Spencer, Maria, and Erika discuss our experience with Step 10, Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it. We were guided by these questions:

  • What is your understanding of a “daily inventory”?
  • What are some ways you might do a daily inventory? (Have you found an effective way to take a daily inventory?)
  • What is a “spot inventory”?
  • Do you take a daily inventory?
  • The second part of Step 10, “and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it” seems pretty clear?
  • What does “promptly” mean to you?
  • In what ways might you “admit it”?
  • Do you struggle to admit that you are “wrong” in the moment?
  • How do you feel about admitting your wrongs?
  • Do you feel better when you make a 10th step amends?

Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.
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Changes – Episode 47

Do you wish that things would just stay the same? Does change freak you out? Maybe you get depressed when live today isn’t the same as yesterday. If you identify with these feelings, stick around. Today, I’m going to talk about changes.

There is a big change for the Recovery Show: Kelli and Swetha have decided, for personal reasons, that they can no longer participate in the show. In this episode Spencer reflects on how this change affected him, and how he is using the program to work through it. Here is his rough outline for the show

  • Awareness: What happened? How I felt? What I did?
    • “Change is a process … becoming aware is the first stage of this process.” (How Al-Anon Works, p. 23)
  • Fear of change and uncertainty. What about just giving up?
  • Acceptance:
    • “being willing to feel the feels, and if I can’t bring myself to do the next right thing, at least trying to refrain from doing the next wrong thing” (from a friend via Facebook)
    • “Change, even wonderful, positive change, involves some grief for the old … life” (HAW p. 88)
    • Working the steps: 1 … 2 & 3 … 4 & 5 … 6 & 7
    • Gratitude — for what was — and that I can keep on moving forward.
    • Serenity prayer!
    • Reading from Bless the Imperfect.
  • Action
    • Sermon this morning: “What is the love story we tell that keeps us going?”
    • Where are we going?
    • I am committed to continuing the podcast.
    • I will be drawing on the local recovery community for guests and maybe, ultimately, new co-hosts.
    • It will be different. I fear not as good, and I hope to grow into something better (just as we would have continued to do.)
    • Your contributions are valuable, perhaps more now than ever.
  • Thank you to all who have contributed, and special thanks to those who sent prayers for me this week.

Our topic for next week is Step 10. Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.
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Living Rich, Full Lives in Recovery – Episode 42

Does a life in recovery sound limiting? Are you unsure what activities, events, etc from your previous life will fit into your new life of recovery? Does living a rich full life sound selfish when your loved ones are still suffering from addiction? What tools have your learned that allow you to fully live your own life today? Kelli, Spencer, and Swetha try to answer these questions and others as we talk about living rich, full lives in recovery.

  • What does “living rich, full lives” mean to you?
  • Does it mean something different to you today than it did in the past?
  • What are some tools you use today to ensure that you are living life in a satisfying way?
  • How do you know when you are living a rich, full life?
  • What do you see as the spiritual aspects of a rich, full life?
  • How can changed attitudes contribute to living a rich, full life?
  • How does your life today differ from your life before recovery? Some aspects of life to consider include:
    • Activities
    • Relationships with partners, friends, family, co-workers, etc.
    • Spiritual practices
    • Emotional life
    • Intellectual life
  • Do you see your life today as rich and full? As richer and fuller than it has been in times past? What do you still want to add (or take away) to improve your life?

Our topic for next week is the 3 A’s – Awareness, Acceptance and Action.  Do you think you have to fix something as soon as you become aware of it? Do you find yourself springing into action even before you know what the problem is? Is it difficult to know if you’ve fully accepted something as a cue to take action?  Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here. We plan to record this episode on Monday, September 30 starting at 6PM EDT (2200 GMT). You can listen live and participate. Just click Listen Live at the top of the page.

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Self Acceptance and Self Esteem – Episode 36

Do you often judge yourself? Do you internalize the criticism of others?  Are you afraid they are right? Are you unable to like yourself? Then listen as Swetha, Spencer, and special guest host Erika talk about self acceptance and self esteem.

We share our experience, strength, and hope around questions such as these:

What is self acceptance?
How is that different from self esteem?
Where is the line between having self esteem and being an egomaniac?
How can I be self accepting and not in denial about my flaws?
Why is important to have self acceptance or self esteem?
Is self acceptance necessary for healthy self esteem?
How has Al-Anon helped my self acceptance and self esteem?
Can I be self accepting and motivated to change at the same time? How?
How can I have self esteem without being egotistical?
How can the love of my Higher Power help me find self acceptance?

Our topic for next week is juggling vs balance. Do you sometimes feel that you’re trying to keep too many balls in the air at once? Do you hear people talk about a balanced life and wonder what they mean? Do you struggle with too much to do and not enough time to do it all? Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.

We will be recording episode 37 starting at 10:00 EDT (14:00 GMT), Saturday August 17, 2013. You can listen live at mixlr.com, and interact with us in the chat room as we are recording. If you have an iPhone, iPod or iPad, you will need the mixlr app.
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Step 8 – Episode 35

peace at sunsetIf you are struggling with guilt and resentment over your actions in the past… If you aren’t ready to make amends to someone… If you think that you deserve an amends before you make one… You’ve come to the right place. Keep listening as we discuss STEP 8.

Kelli, Spencer, and Swetha share our own experiences with Step 8, as we try to address these questions and others:

How do you decide if you have “harmed” someone? (what was the act? why did we do it? What were the consequences?)
Have you made a list? How did you go about it? (use your 4th step?)
How do you “become willing” to make amends?
What if there are people you are not willing to make amends to?
Can you be willing to become willing?
What about people who owe you amends?
Did you make it onto your list? Why is it important to include yourself?
What is the difference between willingness and actually making the amends?
What part does honesty play in this process?
Did you review your list with anyone before planning amends? Did they make any suggestions to you? What did/ could you learn from them?
Does your HP get included in this step?

This episode was our first experiment at live broadcast through Mixlr.com. Join us on Monday, August 12, at 6PM EDT (2200 GMT) as we record our next episode on self-acceptance and self-esteem. You can listen to our raw, unedited conversation, and interact with us and other listeners in the chat room. Just click on the “listen live” link to the right. If you “Follow” us on Mixlr, you will automatically receive an email notification when we start broadcasting.

Our topic for next week is self-acceptance and self-esteem. Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.
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