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Karen B – Living the Traditions – 306

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Karen shared her story in episode 262, Third Time is the Charm. Things have changed since then, and we start by catching up on recent events. Then we move into a discussion about how she (and I) use Traditions 1 and 2 in our lives. The traditions are:

Our common welfare should come first; personal progress for the greatest number depends upon unity.
For our group purpose there is but one authority—a loving God as He may express Himself in our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants—they do not govern.

Our conversation is guided by these questions.

What does “common welfare” mean to you in your daily life?
How do you place it first?
How does unity enable and enhance your personal progress?
… the progress of others in your life?
Tradition two speaks of the authority of a higher power. What does this mean for you?
Do you use a “group conscience” in your living? How?
What does this mean for you in your family?
… at work?
… in other groups (friends, associations, church)?
In what ways might you consider yourself a “trusted servant”?
How does the concept of “trusted servant” change the way you relate to others? (in the family, at work, etc.)

Readings and Links

Karen read from Courage to Change, page 108 (April 17) and from How Al-Anon Works, page 108.

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Making a Decision – Episode 233

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Step 3 asks us to “make a decision” to turn our will to the care of a higher power. Why is this so hard for many of us?

I looked back over 15 years at the 3 times I have worked step 3, and found the answers I wrote in 2002, 2011, and 2017 for these questions about making a decision.

Step 3: Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
How do I feel about turning my life over to a Higher Power for guidance?
How do I know who or what my Higher Power is?
Am I willing to turn my problems over? What could help me be willing?
How can I stop thinking, trying, and considering, and actually make a decision?
Have I had a problem making decisions in my life? Give examples.
If I am unable to make a decision, what holds me back?

How would you answer these questions? Share your responses so we can read them in a future episode.

Upcoming are two more parent episodes. For one episode, please share your experience, strength, and hope about being the parent of an alcoholic or addict. For the other, how has recovery changed the way you are a parent? Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.
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Maria – Beyond Recovery – Episode 185

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How do you use recovery in your life?

Join Spencer and Maria as they explore how she has found a new way of living, beyond recovery.

Before coming to recovery, Maria's life was “good enough.” The tools she gained in the Al-Anon program have enabled her to face two major life choices, and to decide to make a huge change in her direction.

How about you? What does your life look like, beyond recovery? Please contact us: call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.

A listener was helped by the meditation “A god of my understanding.”

Choices – Episode 164

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Do we have choices in our lives? What kinds of choices do we have? How have we found choices in recovery?

Choice Before Recovery

Did you feel you had choices in your life?
Did it seem like, when you had a choice, it was either/or, with no 3rd possibility?
Were you “allowed” to change your mind?
How did you make decisions?
- Little ones? (What to have for dinner, what movie to see.)
- Big ones? (Which job to take, where to live.)

Choice in early recovery

What messages about choice did you hear when you started attending Al-Anon?
Was it a surprise to hear that you had choices? That you had more than 2 alternatives?
What did you hear about making choices to take care of yourself?
What if you didn’t know which answer was the “right” one?

Choice now

What tools of the program can you use to help you make a choice?
Which slogans are helpful?
How do you use prayer and meditation in making decisions?
How can taking inventory help?
Have you found that you can choose your attitude? Acceptance? Gratitude?

Upcoming topics include sadness. Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.
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Right of Decision – Episode 110

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Do you have trouble letting others make decisions? Do you second guess your own decisions? Spencer and Akilah discuss the “right of decision”, as expressed in Al-Anon's 3rd concept of service, “The right of decision makes effective leadership possible.”

What is “the right of decision?”
How do we use the right of decision in the program?
- Example from Spencer’s home group: the “chair” chooses the person who gives the lead each week.
- GR, delegates to assembly, etc.
How do we use the right of decision in our own lives?
- From Paths to Recovery (pg. 265): “In our own lives, the right of decision means we have the right to proceed in the best way we know and to ask for help when it is needed.”
How does this concept connect with Tradition 2? (For our group purpose there is but one authority—a loving God as He may express Himself in our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants—they do not govern.) With Step 3? (Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.)
Can I make a decision and be comfortable with it? If not, why not?
Do I ever ask someone to do a task and then try to direct the details of how it should be done? If so, how can I change this pattern?
The 3rd concept section of the AA 12, 12 and 12 study guide starts with the statement “We serve by acting on our conscience through our “Right of Decision” and we trust others when they exercise their ‘Right of Decision.”
Am I acting in any area of my life that is contrary to my own conscience?
Am I mistrustful of the decisions of others in authority over me?
Am I demanding that anyone else act contrary to their conscience in order to please me?
From Paths to Recovery: Is [concept three] not letting go and letting God?

Reference: 12, 12 and 12 study guide on Concept 3: http://1212and12.org/homework/concepts/1212and12_concept_3.pdf

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