be – a meditation


Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence.

As far as possible without surrender be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even the dull and ignorant; they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter;
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.

Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in your career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs; for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals;
and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself.
Especially, do not feign affection.
Neither be critical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness. Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself.

You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be,
and whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.
With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy.

Max Erhmann


There are so many beautiful messages in this poem. I feel that every time I read it, I read something that speaks to exactly what I am feeling in that moment. So, today, I put it to you, reader; what does this text invoke in you? Please share your experience, strength, and hope as a comment on this meditation with your thoughts on how this poem touches you.

A meditation for September 21, 2013.

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*maintaining serenity – a guest meditation by Ruth


If you planning to do something, become aware of what you really going to do. For example when you plan to go to the natatorium, than imagine how it is there, how people bespatter you with water, pushing you back and forth, accuse you and steal from you. But you will go there in peace and feeling safe, when you remind yourself upfront that you want to stick to your moral conviction. This aligns you with human sanity. This approach applies to everything else. Then when something is really disturbing you, you can say to yourself. I didn’t want to go only to take a bath but I wanted also to practice my moral convictions which makes me sane. This won’t happen if I let myself get upset by those incidents.

Epictetus – The Enchiridion


Epictetus was a late stoic philosopher who lived from about 50 to 130 after Christ. When I came first to Al Anon, I recognized that the program contains a lot of ancient wisdom; this made me feel comfortable early on. On the other hand, to know that human beings are struggling with the same issues since ancient times made me feel as thought I am part of a chain of humans from the past to the present.

My home group meets in a parish hall near the oldest church in town, the fundaments of which date back to the 9th century.When I arrive early enough before the meeting, I get into the church and sit there for awhile. Then, I think that all of the prayers which have been spoken around this place are still there and I have a feeling of being connected to the time, location, and the human beings around me. When I am on the street again, trying to make my way, I am much more relaxed looking at the other people and knowing that they are also just on their way.


A meditation for September 20, 2013.

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me – a meditation


The Universe is not blessing you or punishing you; the Universe is responding to the vibrational attitude that you are emitting.

Abraham Hicks

When I am in pain, it is easy for me to get angry with others and angry with God. I thought it was the world that was doing bad things to me and making my life miserable. “Why me?” used to be my mantra.

With my program in recovery, a miracle happened. No circumstance changed in my life. I still have the same people in my life. I still have the same job. But my life is different. This is because I have changed. My attitude has changed. The way I approach the same circumstance has changed. My “vibrational attitude” is different. Today, I don’t ask “why me?” Instead I ask for help from others and my Higher Power and feel gratitude for my life.

A meditation for September 18, 2013.

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friends – a meditation


You become like the people you spend the most time with.


I see this quote in two ways. The first is that I become like the people I spend most of my time with. And the second is that the people I spend the most time with reflect back to me who I am and how I see myself. That is that my outsides reflect my insides. I surround myself with what I believe to be true.

When I was judgmental of myself and unhappy, I attracted people that were the same way. And we would constantly reaffirm behaviours and actions that tended to inspire resentments and suffering and, in doing so, we would continue to be unhappy and judgmental. As I have become more interested in spiritual growth, the people I have attracted to me are people that are interested in the same and help guide me to greater spiritual growth.

The people with whom I surround myself reflect back to me what I believe to be true about the world. As I have come to understand this, I have found that people just organically come into my life and organically slip away.  The universe seems to provide me with what I wish for when I wish for it. In the same way, it brings the people and events into and out of my life based on my truths and the intentions I hold. And, in turn, these people help me to mold new intentions and truths as I grow.

Today, I try to spend time with people that nourish my soul and not my ego.

A meditation for September 3, 2013.

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choice – a meditation


Teachers open the door, but you must enter by yourself.

Zen Proverb

I have an amazing Sponsor. When I converse with her, I never feel judged, I feel safe, and I feel heard. But, most importantly, I never feel that she gives me advice or tells me what to do.  She does, however, share her experience, strength, and hope from her application of the program and the 12 Steps to her life. This is extremely important to me because it gives me the space to choose for myself whether or not to walk through the door that she has opened.

Having the space to walk through the door or to not walk through that door and not judged by my Sponsor has been one of the greatest gifts of the program because it helped me understand the word “choice.” I could choose to do something for myself regardless of what others had done, and still be respected and valued. Simple, though it is, this is not something I ever realized before. In the past, I would make my choices based on what I thought others wanted me to do or what would make others happy, and then feel like a victim. But realizing this choice was the first time I felt I could safely participate in my own life.

This awareness first occurred in my relationship with my Sponsor. Then this relationship with my Sponsor became the foundation upon which I started to (and continue to try to) base other relationships. I wanted this freedom, this choice. I wanted this, because it is through the choices that I make that I feel that I can exist and take part in my life. And I am so grateful to my Sponsor and the program for showing me this door.  

A meditation for July 6, 2013.

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