character defects

the Fourth Step – a meditation

  The more you love your decisions, the less you need others to love them. This quote, I feel, captures the essence of my low self-esteem and lack of self-trust. I sought the approval of others because I did not love myself. I sought the advice and direction of others because I did not trust…

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self – a meditation

  It is always our own self that we find at the end of the journey. Ella Maillart What I find most beautiful about this quote is that it doesn’t say that I need to be someone different at the end of the journey. What I see in this quote is that spiritual growth is…

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feelings– a meditation

  Most of the good work in this world was done by people who weren’t feeling all that well the day they  did it. Eleanor Roosevelt I have some extremely black-and-white thinking when left to my own devices;I think that I can either acknowledge, and therefore must submit to, my feelings or I think I…

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listen – a meditation

  Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply. Stephen Convey Every time that I listen to someone speak about his/her feelings and start forming a reply before this person has finished talking, I realize I am not allowing the person the right or dignity of…

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reflect – a meditation

  We can waste time searching for our own reflection in others, or we can focus on reflecting what we love in others.   So much of my life has been spent watching or experiencing one abusive situation after another and seeing how my loved ones sweep it under the rug and pretend it’s OK….

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