Do you switch the tv-channel when the commercial kicks in? Are you tired of being reminded of something which you know would be good for you but you just don’t want to, and now giving in would just feel odd? Do you wonder why some annoying people always have to emphasize where and how they get their stuff? But are you curious why that person, despite all the obvious problems in their life, has a smile on their face? And how do we practice anonymity in our podcast?
Ruth and Spencer talk about Tradition 11, “Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio, films, and TV. We need guard with special care the anonymity of all AA members.” We used these questions to guide our discussion.
– There is a lot in this this tradition and I would like to start with the last sentence: the anonymity of the alcoholic. Why it is important, for them for us. How was it when we were new, or even before before we learned about the concept if the desease.
- If we break our anonymity we may break the one of our relatives too.
- How can we share our story without breaking the anonymity?
- Various aspects of anonymity: our background, education, finance, status … not just names.
- As important as it is to experience people who have what you want to have, it is important not to connect people with program (principles over personalities).
- What can we do, what do you do to let people know about AlAnon?
I asked on twitter: how would you translate the 11th tradition into your personal life and I get a very good response from “the bubble hour”: “attraction not promotion means we can stand on our integrity in all things, without controlling outcomes or people.”
- How do we practice Tradition 11 in this podcast?
- We share only our own experience, strength, and hope.
- We do not use our full names, and some of us use pseudonyms.
- We don’t try to “sell” Al-Anon.
- We often use phrases such as “loved one” when we mention the alcoholic(s) and/or addict(s) in our life.
A Slogan for Tradition 11: “Take what you like and leave the rest”
How do we practice this tradition in our life?
- Being an example.
- Act as we expect to be treated (“Golden rule”)
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