- What challenges have you found, as an adult child of an alcoholic, in parenting your own children?
- What program tools have you used, and how have they helped?
- What is your biggest challenge now?
Several listeners shared their experience around these and similar questions.
Some challenges were
- Not controlling.
- “Hurt people hurt people”
And some tools for better parenting include these:
- Step 10 — apologize and make amends to our children.
- Demonstrate humility and honesty — see it in the children
- Tradition 11 — let it begin with me (attraction rather than promotion)
- Tradition 1 — unity — guard against dominance — not about “me” but about the family
- Tradition 2 — a trusted servant (a trustee) to the children — they have their own higher power
- Tradition 4 — autonomy except where it affects others
- Tradition 10 — no opinion on outside issues — let the child dress how she or he wants to dress
- Tradition 7 — self supporting — allow children opportunity to be self supporting to build dignity, respect, responsibility.
- Concepts of service — shared responsibility (co-parenting)
- We love the presentation in the Reaching for Personal Freedom workbook, because it helps us understand how we can use the Traditions and Concepts in our own lives, in our families, and other relationships.
- Step 11 — “I don’t own my children, God owns them” — need knowledge of God’s will.
- Easy does it
- How important is it?
- Detaching with love.
- “Don’t argue with alcoholics, toddlers, and terrorists.”
- Let them express emotions without needing to change them
- Sharing program with children.
- “What am I hurt about?”
- Pause — the “Al-Anon breath”
Our topic for next week is gratitude. Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email email@example.com to share something you are grateful for today.
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