Spencer T Open Talk – Episode 217

An Al-Anon open talk presented by Spencer T, host of The Recovery Show, in September, 2017. The talk has the “traditional” structure: What was it like? What happened? What is it like now?

It includes reflections on:

  • Learning at a young age that it was my responsibility to “fix” everyone’s problems.
  • Learning codependent behavior — that I could not be happy unless everyone around me was happy.
  • What happens when these behaviors meet up with alcoholism? (Hint: it’s not pretty.)
  • How long did it take before I finally realized I needed help? And that Al-Anon might be the place to find it?
  • What did early recovery look like for me?
  • How did I find an answer to that question that plagues so many of us: “Should I stay or should I go?”
  • What did the steps look like when I first encountered them? What do they mean to me now?
  • How has recovery helped and supported me in all aspects of my life?

Please consider sharing your story for our upcoming 5-year anniversary episode in early December, 2017. See our contact page for information on how you can contribute your voice.

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Willingness – Episode 216

A member asked another member to be their sponsor. The response was, “Are you willing to do what I did for as long as I did it to get what I have?” What would your answer be? Where does that willingness come from?

  • Definition
  • What does this word mean to me today?
  • How is that different from how I understood it in the past?
  • Where does willingness appear in the Steps?
  • Step 3: Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
  • Step 8: Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.
  • But also: Step 4 — willingness to look deeply at ourselves.
  • Step 5 and 6 — willingness to change.
  • Step 11 — willingness to deepen our relationship with a higher power.
  • In fact, we can find it in all the steps!
  • Eric noted that you can put the word “willing” in front of each step: Step 1, “Became willing to admit we were powerless…”, etc.
  • Acronym: HOW — Honest, Open, and Willing. This is HOW the program of recovery works.
  • How did I become willing?
    • Examples of others — your stories of using the principles of the program in your own recovery helped me be willing to try them for myself.
    • Pain — “hitting bottom” over and over in different ways. Eventually willing to try something, anything new.

A few tidbits from the episode:

Psychology Today article: 5 Ways to Really Get Closer to Each Other

Phone meetings web site.

And the quote from Marilyn Monroe that Spencer mentioned: “Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.”

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Welcome – Episode 215

how much love?How were you made welcome to recovery?
How are we welcoming to others?

This episode was inspired by hearing the poem In Sweet Company by Margaret Wolff. Listen to the podcast to hear the poem, which spoke to me of the way I was welcomed and accepted in the Al-Anon program. I reflect on the poem with these questions.

  • How did I receive the welcome expressed in this poem?
  • How have I gifted this welcome to others?
  • How have I failed to be welcoming?
  • How can I be more welcoming?

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Thanks to Margaret Wolff for permission to share her poem in this episode. Purchase the book In Sweet Company: Conversations With Extraordinary Women About Living A Spiritual Life from Amazon, or visit her website In Sweet Company.
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Sadness and Loneliness – Episode 214

Alone but not lonelyHow were you lonely and sad? Is there a difference between loneliness and being alone? How has recovery helped to relieve these feelings?

Eric and Spencer explore loneliness, sadness, and recovery guided in part by these questions.

  • Definitions.
    • Sad, despair, isolated, grief, loss,
  • How did you deal with (or not deal with) sadness before recovery?
    • What brought you sadness?
    • What other emotions went with it?
    • How did you act?
  • When were you lonely?
    • What other emotions went with it?
    • What was your “self-talk” when you were lonely?
    • How did you act?
  • How has your recovery changed this?
  • How is being lonely different from being alone?
  • Did you used to resist being alone?
  • How has that changed?

We made reference to a couple of articles from Psychology Today.

The Surprising Antidote to Loneliness

The Value of Sadness

A previous episode on Hope (episode 65) was mentioned.

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Cynthia C Open Talk – Episode 213

An open talk by Cynthia C, speaking in 1986.

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