Do you find yourself often running low on sleep? Do you miss meals because you’re too busy? Do you ever neglect your own basic needs in order to take care of someone else? Well, then this is the episode for you because today’s topic is “Self Care”!
Kelli, Spencer and special guest host Jonah talk about their experience, strength and hope, as prompted by questions such as these:
What is self care? Does it only mean eating enough and sleeping enough?
Why is self care important?
What did self care mean to you before the program?
How did that affect the way you interacted with others?
What does self care mean to you now?
How has that affected your relationships?
Now that you’re in program and working on self care, does that mean your self care always comes first no matter what the needs of the other person are?
Has your definition of self care changed as time has passed?
Our topic for next week is Step 9, Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others. Did you avoid starting to work on the steps because of fear of step 9? Are you not excited about the idea of having to make up for past actions? Do you fear making amends because of potential consequences? Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email firstname.lastname@example.org with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here. Continue reading “Self Care – Episode 39”
Today, we’re doing another roundtable episode with siblings of alcoholics and addicts. Jane and Rick share their experience growing up with alcoholic brothers. We ask them questions such as the following:
If your sibling started drinking in the home when you were a minor, how did that affect your relationship with them growing up?
Did you feel you had to hide their drinking to keep them from getting in trouble with your parents?
Did you feel you couldn’t bring friends home?
Did you feel unable to socially engage with them?
Did you feel that you were recruited by your parents to help “fix” your sibling’s drinking?
What sorts of things did you try to manage growing up?
Protecting your family?
Did you feel that there was additional attention and pressure upon you as the non-addicted sibling to be “good”? Or did you feel that you didn't get enough attention because the family was focused on your addicted sibling?
How did you live your own life growing up as opposed to trying to manage your sibling and avoid taking their inventory? How do you do this today in recovery?
How did you talk about difficult topics? Has this changed?
How did you define love during this time in your life? How has this definition changed over time?
Have you noticed your childhood relationship with your sibling mirrored in other relationships, pre- or post-involvement in recovery?
Our topic for next week is self care. Do you find yourself often running low on sleep? Do you miss meals because you’re too busy? Do you ever neglect your own basic needs in order to take care of someone else? Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email email@example.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.
Do you sometimes feel that you’re trying to keep too many balls in the air at once? Do you hear people talk about a balanced life and wonder what they mean? Do you struggle with too much to do and not enough time to do it all? Then this episode is for you, as we talk about juggling vs balance.
Spencer, Kelli, and Swetha share their experience, strength, and hope, addressing questions such as:
How do you define balance? How does it feel to you to be balanced?
How do you define juggling? What does it feel like when you are juggling?
What tools can you use to help you through periods when you get stuck juggling?
Why do you want balance in your life?
What helps you to achieve balance or bring yourself back to balance?
Next week, we will be recording a sibling round table. If your sibling is an alcoholic or addict, we’d love to hear from you. How did having a sibling who is an addict/alcoholic affect your life growing up? How is your life impacted by that sibling now? Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email firstname.lastname@example.org with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.
Do you often judge yourself? Do you internalize the criticism of others? Are you afraid they are right? Are you unable to like yourself? Then listen as Swetha, Spencer, and special guest host Erika talk about self acceptance and self esteem.
We share our experience, strength, and hope around questions such as these:
What is self acceptance?
How is that different from self esteem?
Where is the line between having self esteem and being an egomaniac?
How can I be self accepting and not in denial about my flaws?
Why is important to have self acceptance or self esteem?
Is self acceptance necessary for healthy self esteem?
How has Al-Anon helped my self acceptance and self esteem?
Can I be self accepting and motivated to change at the same time? How?
How can I have self esteem without being egotistical?
How can the love of my Higher Power help me find self acceptance?
Our topic for next week is juggling vs balance. Do you sometimes feel that you’re trying to keep too many balls in the air at once? Do you hear people talk about a balanced life and wonder what they mean? Do you struggle with too much to do and not enough time to do it all? Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email email@example.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.
If you are struggling with guilt and resentment over your actions in the past… If you aren’t ready to make amends to someone… If you think that you deserve an amends before you make one… You’ve come to the right place. Keep listening as we discuss STEP 8.
Kelli, Spencer, and Swetha share our own experiences with Step 8, as we try to address these questions and others:
How do you decide if you have “harmed” someone? (what was the act? why did we do it? What were the consequences?)
Have you made a list? How did you go about it? (use your 4th step?)
How do you “become willing” to make amends?
What if there are people you are not willing to make amends to?
Can you be willing to become willing?
What about people who owe you amends?
Did you make it onto your list? Why is it important to include yourself?
What is the difference between willingness and actually making the amends?
What part does honesty play in this process?
Did you review your list with anyone before planning amends? Did they make any suggestions to you? What did/ could you learn from them?
Does your HP get included in this step?
This episode was our first experiment at live broadcast through Mixlr.com. Join us on Monday, August 12, at 6PM EDT (2200 GMT) as we record our next episode on self-acceptance and self-esteem. You can listen to our raw, unedited conversation, and interact with us and other listeners in the chat room. Just click on the “listen live” link to the right. If you “Follow” us on Mixlr, you will automatically receive an email notification when we start broadcasting.