First Things First – Episode 51

A power greater than ourselves provides the beauty of a flower.Are you often unsure what to do next? Do you struggle with indecision? Do you have too many choices? Do you feel you have no choices? Today, we talk about the slogan “First Things First.”

Spencer, Maria and special guest Adrienne discuss this slogan, guided by these questions:

  • How did you make decisions / set priorities before the program?
  • What is the difference between urgent and important for you?
  • Do you let immediate “crisis” distract you from the important things in your life?
  • How do you understand the slogan “First things first”?
  • What tools can help you to figure out what is the “first thing”?
  • Have you used this slogan to help you make choices and set priorities?
  • Can you use it to help you get started on something that seems “too big”?
  • How do you think it relates to the expression “Do the next right thing”?
  • To “Do what is given you to do”?

Our topic for next week is  My Story, which is to say, your stories. Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.
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Step 11 – Episode 50

Have you established a routine of prayer and meditation? Do you struggle with them? Are you not sure how to know God’s will? Yes! Today, we’re going to talk about Step 11, which says “Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God, as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of his will for us and the power to carry it out.

Spencer and Maria talk about Step 11, guided by these questions:

  • What is your understanding of “prayer”? “meditation”?
  • How are these different from before the program? Early in the program?
  • Do you have a regular practice of prayer and meditation?
  • What is it?
  • How has it changed over time?
  • How have you sought to improve your conscious contact with your Higher Power?
  • How does praying only for knowledge of his will differ from how you prayed before the program?
  • How do you know if you understand God’s will?
  • Final thoughts — how is Step 11 working in your life?

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Getting Started in Al-Anon – Episode 49

Are you new to Al-Anon? Do you wonder what to expect? What you should do immediately? What are the challenges we face early on? Does Al-Anon have its own “culture”? Then you’ve come to the right place, because today, we’re going to talk about getting started in Al-Anon.

Spencer and guest host Wendy talk about our early experiences in Al-Anon, reflecting on what you might expect as you come to your first few meetings. We used this outline to guide our discussion.

  • What should I expect when I come to my first meeting?
    • Greeting?
    • Literature?
    • Meeting format?
  • What should I do “immediately”?
    • Go to meetings!
    • Buy and read literature!
    • Talk in the meeting?
    • Get a phone list?
    • Get a sponsor?
    • Start working the steps?
  • What are some early challenges?
    • The jargon?
    • Talking?
    • Listening?
    • Feeling safe?
    • Crying?
    • “God” talk?
  • Is there an Al-Anon culture? What is it?
    • Language/jargon?
    • Slogans?
    • How we interact with each other?

Our topic for next week is Step 11, “Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood God, praying only for knowledge of God's will for us and the power to carry that out”. Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.

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Step 10 – Inventory – Episode 48

gentleDo you struggle to admit that you are “wrong” in the moment? Have you found an effective way to take a daily inventory?  How do you feel about admitting your wrongs?  What exactly does this step mean by “promptly”?  Do you feel better when you make a 10th step amends? Then stick around, because  today, we’re going to talk about Step 10.

 Spencer, Maria, and Erika discuss our experience with Step 10, Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it. We were guided by these questions:

  • What is your understanding of a “daily inventory”?
  • What are some ways you might do a daily inventory? (Have you found an effective way to take a daily inventory?)
  • What is a “spot inventory”?
  • Do you take a daily inventory?
  • The second part of Step 10, “and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it” seems pretty clear?
  • What does “promptly” mean to you?
  • In what ways might you “admit it”?
  • Do you struggle to admit that you are “wrong” in the moment?
  • How do you feel about admitting your wrongs?
  • Do you feel better when you make a 10th step amends?

Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.
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Changes – Episode 47

Do you wish that things would just stay the same? Does change freak you out? Maybe you get depressed when live today isn’t the same as yesterday. If you identify with these feelings, stick around. Today, I’m going to talk about changes.

There is a big change for the Recovery Show: Kelli and Swetha have decided, for personal reasons, that they can no longer participate in the show. In this episode Spencer reflects on how this change affected him, and how he is using the program to work through it. Here is his rough outline for the show

  • Awareness: What happened? How I felt? What I did?
    • “Change is a process … becoming aware is the first stage of this process.” (How Al-Anon Works, p. 23)
  • Fear of change and uncertainty. What about just giving up?
  • Acceptance:
    • “being willing to feel the feels, and if I can't bring myself to do the next right thing, at least trying to refrain from doing the next wrong thing” (from a friend via Facebook)
    • “Change, even wonderful, positive change, involves some grief for the old … life” (HAW p. 88)
    • Working the steps: 1 … 2 & 3 … 4 & 5 … 6 & 7
    • Gratitude — for what was — and that I can keep on moving forward.
    • Serenity prayer!
    • Reading from Bless the Imperfect.
  • Action
    • Sermon this morning: “What is the love story we tell that keeps us going?”
    • Where are we going?
    • I am committed to continuing the podcast.
    • I will be drawing on the local recovery community for guests and maybe, ultimately, new co-hosts.
    • It will be different. I fear not as good, and I hope to grow into something better (just as we would have continued to do.)
    • Your contributions are valuable, perhaps more now than ever.
  • Thank you to all who have contributed, and special thanks to those who sent prayers for me this week.

Our topic for next week is Step 10. Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.
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