Forcing Solutions – Episode 20

“… our thinking becomes distorted by trying to force solutions.” What does it mean to force a solution? When do we try to force solutions? How do we try to force solutions? We discuss these questions and others, sharing our experience, strength and hope.

“… our thinking becomes distorted by trying to force solutions.” What does it mean to force a solution? When do we try to force solutions? How do we try to force solutions? Spencer, Kelli, and Swetha discuss these questions and others, sharing their experience, strength and hope.

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Gratitude – Episode 19

How do we feel gratitude? Can gratitude help get you through a hard time? Is it something you can choose? Does finding gratitude make your problems go away? What is an “Attitude of Gratitude”?

Special guest hosts Kate and Patrick join Swetha and Spencer to talk about these questions, and about their experience finding gratitude, using gratitude as a tool, and sometimes needing help to see any reason to be grateful. Gratitude is not our natural way of thinking, it is something we have had to learn to cultivate. We agree that gratitude can be used as an action, as a process, in the sense of “acting our way to right thinking.” Gratitude doesn’t necessarily solve our problems, but when the major problem is in ourselves, rather than outside, holding an attitude of gratitude can be a big help.

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Step 4 – doing the inventory – Episode 18

Step 4 states “[We] took a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.” What were our first impressions? What did we fear? What did we find? What was our experience of working Step 4? How has it enhanced our lives? Kelli, Erika, and Spencer talk about our experience, strength, and hope around Step 4.

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Trusting the process – Episode 17

What does it mean to “trust the process?” What is “the process?” Is it meetings? The Steps? Working with a sponsor? Reading the literature? Swetha, Spencer, and special guest Anne H share our experience, strength, and hope on these questions and others. We welcome special guest Anne H to the podcast.

At the beginning, the only trust we had was that coming to a meeting might help. We really weren’t sure how, but we had run out of other options. More trust came later, as we started to see that Al-Anon had helped other people to live a happier, more serene life in the face of alcoholism and addiction.

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Blame – Episode 16

We talk about blame — how we blame others, how we take blame on ourselves and how we can move past blaming. We have learned that blaming is often a result of black and white thinking, and that we can have healthier relationships when we can look at our part in a conflict realistically, rather than assuming that one party must be totally at fault. Understanding that most people are doing the best they can most of the time lets us detach from, forgive, or accept others behavior rather than blaming them for what they did “to us.”

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