Vulnerability – Episode 41

Do you fear that being vulnerable with your loved ones will be perceived as a sign of weakness? Do you tend to avoid discussing your own feelings? Do you try to cover up your flaws? Do you often take other people’s inventory?
Brené Brown says “vulnerability is our most accurate measure of courage”. What do you think about this? Do you gain trust when someone else is vulnerable? Stick with us as we talk about vulnerability.

What is vulnerability?
How do you feel about being vulnerable? What is your fear around it?
How is this different from how you felt about vulnerability before the program?
Do you think being vulnerable is good? Why?
Does others’ vulnerability increase your trust in them?
Do you find that others trust you more when you exhibit vulnerability?
How do you exhibit vulnerability in your day to day life?
How has recovery helped you to be more vulnerable?
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When you are vulnerable today, do you just never get hurt?
How do you handle pain and disappointment while remaining vulnerable?
How do you know when you’re avoiding vulnerability?
Should you always be vulnerable or only around certain people or in certain situations? Why or why not?

Our topic for next week is living full, rich lives in recovery. Does a life in recovery sound limiting? Are you unsure what activities, events, etc from your previous life will fit into your new life of recovery? Does living a rich full life sound selfish when your loved ones are still suffering from addiction? What tools have your learned that allow you to live your own life today? Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.
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Step 9, Amends – Episode 40

appleJoin us as we discuss the power and potential of Step 9, which states “Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.”

Spencer, Kelli, and Swetha share their experience, strength, and hope with Step 9, guided and inspired by questions such as these:

Have you worked Step 9 yet? If so, give a brief explanation of your experience.
What are the different types of amends you are aware of (living, direct, etc).
Which have you practiced?
Can you describe an example of each?
If you have made direct amends, how did you do it? Where? When? What did you say? What did you not say?
How do you know which type of amends to give to each person on your Step 8 list? [Spencer: “… direct amends … wherever possible” seems pretty clear]
What is a self-amends?
Did you make an amends to yourself? If so, how?
Why is making an amends to yourself important?
Did you make an amends to your Higher Power? Why?
How do you know when you’re ready to give amends to someone?
What happens if you have someone on your list that you just don’t feel ready to make an amend to? Can you move on to Step 10 or do you have to “complete” Step 9 first?
How has making amends changed your life?
What is the difference between an amend and an apology?

Our topic for next week is vulnerability. Consider these questions, and tell us what you think. Do you fear that being vulnerable with your loved ones will be perceived as a sign of weakness? Do you tend to avoid discussing your own feelings? Do you try to cover up your flaws? Do you often take other people’s inventory? Brené Brown says “vulnerability is our most accurate measure of courage”. What do you think about this? Do you gain trust when someone else is vulnerable?

Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.
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Self Care – Episode 39

4490727456_8e816c6c02_bDo you find yourself often running low on sleep? Do you miss meals because you’re too busy? Do you ever neglect your own basic needs in order to take care of someone else? Well, then this is the episode for you because today’s topic is “Self Care”!

Kelli, Spencer and special guest host Jonah talk about their experience, strength and hope, as prompted by questions such as these:

What is self care? Does it only mean eating enough and sleeping enough?
Why is self care important?
What did self care mean to you before the program?
How did that affect the way you interacted with others?
What does self care mean to you now?
How has that affected your relationships?
Now that you’re in program and working on self care, does that mean your self care always comes first no matter what the needs of the other person are?
Has your definition of self care changed as time has passed?

Our topic for next week is Step 9, Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others. Did you avoid starting to work on the steps because of fear of step 9? Are you not excited about the idea of having to make up for past actions?  Do you fear making amends because of potential consequences? Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.
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Sibling round table – Episode 38

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Today, we’re doing another roundtable episode with siblings of alcoholics and addicts. Jane and Rick share their experience growing up with alcoholic brothers. We ask them questions such as the following:

 

  • If your sibling started drinking in the home when you were a minor, how did that affect your relationship with them growing up?
    • Did you feel you had to hide their drinking to keep them from getting in trouble with your parents?
    • Did you feel you couldn’t bring friends home?
    • Did you feel unable to socially engage with them?
  • Did you feel that you were recruited by your parents to help “fix” your sibling’s drinking?
  • What sorts of things did you try to manage growing up?
    • Parents’ happiness?
    • Sibling’s drinking?
    • Protecting your family?
  • Did you feel that there was additional attention and pressure upon you as the non-addicted sibling to be “good”? Or did you feel that you didn’t get enough attention because the family was focused on your addicted sibling?
  • How did you live your own life growing up as opposed to trying to manage your sibling and avoid taking their inventory? How do you do this today in recovery?
  • How did you talk about difficult topics? Has this changed?
  • How did you define love during this time in your life? How has this definition changed over time?
  • Have you noticed your childhood relationship with your sibling mirrored in other relationships, pre- or post-involvement in recovery?

 

Our topic for next week is self care. Do you find yourself often running low on sleep? Do you miss meals because you’re too busy? Do you ever neglect your own basic needs in order to take care of someone else? Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.

We plan to record the episode live starting at 10 AM EDT (1400 GMT) on Saturday August 31. Join us by clicking on the listen live link at the right.
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Juggling vs. Balance – Episode 37

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Do you sometimes feel that you’re trying to keep too many balls in the air at once? Do you hear people talk about a balanced life and wonder what they mean? Do you struggle with too much to do and not enough time to do it all? Then this episode is for you, as we talk about juggling vs balance.

Spencer, Kelli, and Swetha share their experience, strength, and hope, addressing questions such as:

How do you define balance? How does it feel to you to be balanced?
How do you define juggling? What does it feel like when you are juggling?
What tools can you use to help you through periods when you get stuck juggling?
Why do you want balance in your life?
What helps you to achieve balance or bring yourself back to balance?

Next week, we will be recording a sibling round table. If your sibling is an alcoholic or addict, we’d love to hear from you. How did having a sibling who is an addict/alcoholic affect your life growing up? How is your life impacted by that sibling now? Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.

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