Resentment – Episode 8

We discuss resentment. How do we understand it? How does it affect us? How do we recognize resentment? What tools have we learned to deal with it?

Swetha, Liz, and Spencer discuss resentments. We find some commonality in defining resentments as anger over something that happened in the past. Sometimes it’s “righteous indignation” about someone else’s behavior, about some injury that someone else did to us.

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we shall overcome – a meditation

LIberty Bell - We Shall Overcome




We shall overcome.

– Rev. Martin Luther King, Jr.



Today in the US is Martin Luther King, Jr. day. It is a day to recall how far we have come, and a day to contemplate how far we have to go, in many ways. The hymn, “We Shall Overcome” reminds me that I do not have to be alone in my struggles. Whether those struggles be against injustice in the world, or against my own failings. I do not have to be alone, for we shall overcome. The focus of the program may be on our personal recovery, but we can do it together. And together, we shall overcome our fears, our failings, and we shall recover together.

A meditation for January 21, 2013.

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home – a meditation

I'm going to make this place your home


Settle down, it'll all be clear
Don't pay no mind to the demons
They fill you with fear
The trouble it might drag you down
If you get lost, you can always be found
Just know you’re not alone
Cause I’m going to make this place your home

Philip Phillips – Home


I have found a home for my spirit in Al-Anon. A place where I am not alone in my fear, where I can find help in dealing with the demons and fears in my life. A home where I was able to find myself again, when I was lost in the chaos and unmanageability of life in an alcoholic family.

A meditation for January 20, 2013.

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unity – a meditation





Our common welfare should come first; personal progress for the greatest number depends upon unity.

Al-Anon's Tradition 1



When I share my experience, strength, and hope in a meeting, I always remind myself to be guided by my Higher Power.  While I usually think that I am talking to aid my own recovery, or to share my own pain or joy; what is important is what another person might gain from my words. Our unity of purpose is to help others who have been affected by the diseases of alcoholism and addiction in their loved ones and to support each other in our recovery. Recently, a friend shared with me two experiences he had in meetings, where another person's sharing spoke directly to his own experience, to his own struggles, and helped him to find a small step towards serenity. One of those shares came from a new member at her first meeting. Our Higher Power can truly speak through anyone. Another friend relates having shared, then feeling like she had really said nothing important, until a member across the room said “Thank you, that's the first time today that I have laughed. Thank you for that.” I need to remember these and similar stories, and to know that God may choose to speak to someone else through me, whether I ever know it, or not.

A meditation for January 19, 2013.

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Letting Go – Episode 7

In this podcast, Spencer, Mark, and Swetha discuss letting go as a path to serenity and happiness. But if we do, to whom are we letting go?

letting go of caresSpencer, Mark, and Swetha discuss letting go. We talk about how we were or weren’t able to let go of things in our life before we came to the program. Spencer identified the slogan “Let go and let God” as a tool that he could adopt early on. At first he could only use “Let go”. He kept telling himself to “Let go” when he was tempted to try to control his loved one’s drinking. Mark shared that, before he entered the program, he did a lot of “letting go” — letting go of his needs and responsibilities, really letting go of almost everything other than his attempts to control his son’s drinking. His fear for his son overwhelmed him, and all he could do was try to control. Swetha “let go” of everything that didn’t happen the way she thought it should and that she couldn’t control, ignoring and denying unwanted reality, or else accepting defeat. Mark agreed that he was also letting go of reality, because he couldn’t face it.

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