Spencer, Swetha, and Kelli talk about their experience with Al-Anon, attempting to address the question “What is Al-Anon?” We start by talking about what brought us to the program. Swetha’s boyfriend suggested the program to her, but she didn’t think at first that she qualified. Kelli’s boyfriend’s sponsor told her that if she was going to stay in that relationship she needed to go to Al-Anon. Spencer came into Al-Anon when he realized that his attempts to fix his loved one’s “drinking problem” were making him miserable. He was desperate and figured it might help.
Mary Pearl is open and honest, with a wonderful sense of humor. This is part of a longer talk, so it starts in the middle of an anecdote. She talks here about Steps 6, “Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character”, 7, “Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings”, 8, “Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all,” and 9, “Made direct amends to such people, wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.” Her talk is full of stories from her own life, which make me grin, make me think, and make me cry.
On Step 8: “I had hurt nearly everyone that I had ever come in contact with that I had allowed to care for me.”
She ends with her understanding of the promises.
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We discuss resentment. How do we understand it? How does it affect us? How do we recognize resentment? What tools have we learned to deal with it?
Swetha, Liz, and Spencer discuss resentments. We find some commonality in defining resentments as anger over something that happened in the past. Sometimes it’s “righteous indignation” about someone else’s behavior, about some injury that someone else did to us.
We shall overcome.
– Rev. Martin Luther King, Jr.
Today in the US is Martin Luther King, Jr. day. It is a day to recall how far we have come, and a day to contemplate how far we have to go, in many ways. The hymn, “We Shall Overcome” reminds me that I do not have to be alone in my struggles. Whether those struggles be against injustice in the world, or against my own failings. I do not have to be alone, for we shall overcome. The focus of the program may be on our personal recovery, but we can do it together. And together, we shall overcome our fears, our failings, and we shall recover together.
A meditation for January 21, 2013.
Settle down, it'll all be clear
Don't pay no mind to the demons
They fill you with fear
The trouble it might drag you down
If you get lost, you can always be found
Just know you’re not alone
Cause I’m going to make this place your home
Philip Phillips – Home
I have found a home for my spirit in Al-Anon. A place where I am not alone in my fear, where I can find help in dealing with the demons and fears in my life. A home where I was able to find myself again, when I was lost in the chaos and unmanageability of life in an alcoholic family.
A meditation for January 20, 2013.