If it is language that makes us human,
one half of language is to listen.
In this program, I have learned to listen. In most meetings, I cannot interrupt, comment, or respond immediately or directly to another person's share. I can only sit and listen. I can only take in what they are saying. I can only connect it to my thoughts and understandings.
As an Al-Anon friend, and most particularly, as a sponsor, I have learned to listen without judgement. I have learned to still my desire to find a solution, to fix a friend's problems. I know that I most often am not looking for a solution, but for a loving ear. I want someone who will hear me, who will understand me, who will empathize with me. Someone who can say “Yes, you are human. Yes, you have erred. Yes, you are loved. Yes, I hear you.” I am learning to give back what I most yearn for.
It is a gift to be listened to, and it is a wonderful gift to listen.
A meditation for December 24, 2012.
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Kelli leads a discussion with Swetha and Spencer about acceptance. Kelli opened with a reading that begins “It is said that pain is inevitable but suffering is optional …” She speaks of her previous belief that accepting something meant thinking that it was right. She has grown into an attitude of patience, acceptance, and tolerance for people in her life. Acceptance is very important to her when she is driving, which she does for her job. Swetha used to ignore or deny behavior that she didn't believe were how they should be, and feared that acceptance would make things real and ok. She has learned that she can accept someone's behavior as real without approving of it. Spencer also used to feel that acceptance meant approval, but now accepting reality lets him find the ways in which he can make his life easier and more serene.
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I have finally found a place to live just like I never could before.
And I know I don't have much to give, but soon I'll open any door.
Everybody knows the secret, everybody knows the score.
I have finally found a place to live in the presence of the lord.
Eric Clapton – In the Presence of the Lord
Step 12 says, “Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps …” This is the only promise in the Steps. But what a promise it is! For some, this awakening was sudden and dramatic. For me, it was gradual and almost unnoticed, until in working Step 12, I was forced to look back. Then I saw how my life had changed; how my relationships with others had changes; and most dramatically, how my understanding of and connection with a power greater than myself had grown and flowered. I know that I am in the presence of my higher power whenever I walk into a meeting. The feeling of serenity, peace, and connectedness that I get comes directly from God.
A meditation for December 23, 2012.
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Do not look back, and grieve over the past, for it is gone; do not be troubled about the future, for it has not yet come. Live in the present, and make it so beautiful that it will be worth remembering.
A meditation for December 22, 2012.
On this day of the longest dark night,
let us welcome the light of the returning Sun
with hope and joy.
A meditation for December 21, 2012.