be where your feet are – a meditation






Be where your feet are.




A friend died suddenly, a few days ago. At his memorial service, his sister said these words to us. “Be where your feet are.” She asked us to put our feet on the ground, and to just breathe for a moment or two.

Her brother, my friend, was a man like few others. He touched so many lives in so many ways that over 500 people came to his memorial, to mourn, and to celebrate the wonderful person he had been. His sister told us that one of his gifts was to be present, to be where his feet were, to be focused on the time and place and people there, then. I experienced this presence many times. Among the ways I knew him, he was my doctor. He was usually early for my appointment, and he never made me feel rushed. He was there, totally there, with me and with my concerns of the moment. I don't know how he did it. But I think part of his “secret” was the gift of being where his feet were.

It is difficult for me to be where my feet are. I am often somewhere else, somewhen else. My mind is racing and jumping; chewing on events past, like an old bone; or maybe fretting fruitlessly over what might happen tomorrow or next week or next year. I spend mental energy on things I cannot change, or may never come to pass. And that energy is not available for me here and now. No wonder I'm tired.

Just for today, each day, I will spend some time being just where my feet are, and nowhere else. And maybe, tomorrow, I can do it a little longer.

Steve, I miss you. Now. Here.

A meditation for May 28, 2013.

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Sponsorship – Episode 25

letting go of caresAt my Home group meeting, we say “in this program, we encourage sponsorship.” What does that mean? What is a sponsor? Why would you want one? How can a sponsor help you? How do you get a sponsor? What is it like to be a sponsor? How does being a sponsor help your program? Spencer, Kelli and special guest Lynn discuss these questions and others.

What is a sponsor? Someone who can guide us through the steps. Someone who can call us on our craziness. Someone who knows our story, so we can call them with a question without having to explain the whole situation first. Someone who is “not me.”

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This Too Shall Pass – Episode 24

Have you ever been caught up in a situation? Have you ever found yourself easily dismissing happy situations? Have you ever found yourself feeling hopeless about a difficult situation? Do you find yourself wondering if this too shall pass? Kelli, Swetha and guest host Patrick talk about it.

We often think of “this too shall pass” as a reminder that bad times won't last forever. Patrick points out that it's also useful to remember that good times will pass, so we should enjoy them while they are here, and to be OK when they are inevitably over.

Our topic for next week is sponsorship. Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.
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Step 5 – Confession? – Episode 23

Step 5 says that we “Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs”. Why is this important? What were our fears and concerns? What was our experience? Join Spencer, Kelli and Swetha for a discussion of this step.

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Parents roundtable – Episode 22

In this episode, we are talking with parents who have found support and recovery. Some have children who are still actively drinking or drugging, while some of their children have found recovery, and some struggle with mental illness. Their children may be teens or adults. They will share their experience, strength, and hope with us and with you.

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