Kate C grew up with alcoholism – Episode 275

Kate C shares her story, experience, strength, and hope. She grew up with an alcoholic mother, in a family that separated when she was 8. She didn't feel safe as a child and so decided she needed to take care of her siblings, especially her younger brother. The “isms” she learned in this environment came with her into adulthood and almost destroyed her relationship with her boyfriend, which finally brought her to Al-Anon. She says that Al-Anon has given her the coping skills her parents never taught her. It helped her to put a space between herself and her defects. She is finding “God in the pause.” Now, she and her husband work their own programs, and can check in with each other and have a little meeting whenever they feel the need.

Readings and Links

Kate read from Courage to Change, January 13.

She mentioned an online Skype meeting, Sundays at 7PM Eastern European Time. You can get information to join the meeting by emailing sundayalanononline@gmail.com.

A listener wrote that the books A Beautiful Boy and Tweak have been made into a movie, also titled A Beautiful Boy, which is available on Amazon Prime Video.

Coming up

Our topic for next week is would you rather be right or happy? Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.
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Mary Pearl T on Step 6 – Episode 274

What does it mean to be “entirely ready”? How can we trust our higher power to remove our defects of character?

Mary Pearl T continues her workshop with Step 6, Became entirely ready to have God remove all our defects of character.

How is her anger like a volcano? And why is she talking about towing cars?

Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.

The Year in Recovery 2018 – Episode 273

snow is goodI hear from you about what happened in your recovery in 2018, and what you are aspiring to in 2019.

Readings and links

I read from One Day at a Time in Al-Anon, January 1 and December 31.

Callers and I referred to several episodes of this podcast:

A correspondent mentioned the “Obstacles to Success in Al-Anon“. While looking for this text, I found an online meeting called A Serenity Place.

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Peace in the Darkness – Episode 272

dark and lightDo you feel that you are lost in the dark? Do your fears become larger and more real in darkness? Can darkness ever provide comfort and peace?

My musings on darkness were inspired by but don't really follow this outline:

  • End of the year
  • Shortest day / longest night
  • Darkness -> fear/anxiety
  • We light candles, fires, or decorate trees and houses with lots of lights to drive away the darkness.
  • We also find comfort and peace in the quiet dark.
  • We sleep in the dark.
  • Darkness of the tomb.
  • Darkness of the womb.
  • When do we fear the dark?
    • We can’t see what is around us, threatening us.
    • We can’t see the way out/forward.
    • Shadows and shapes become monsters.
  • When is darkness welcomed?
    • When we want to sleep.
    • To hide away the annoyances of our life.
    • So we can see the stars.
    • We close our eyes to meditate or pray so we are not distracted.
    • I can open myself up to others because I don’t have to see their reaction and they can’t see mine.
  • When I was living with alcoholism but without recovery, life seemed very dark. I could not see a “way out”. And in the actual darkness, in the quiet of the night when I couldn’t sleep, my problems, my anxieties, my fears, my hopelessness were magnified. They were monsters coming out from under the bed, from the closet, to attack me. In that time of my life, darkness was not a friend, darkness was to be feared.

Readings

One Day at a Time in Al-Anon, March 3.

How Al-Anon Works, Chapter 38.

Our topic for next week is twofold: How did recovery work in your life this year? And what aspirations and intentions do you have for the coming year? Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.
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Mary Pearl T on Step 5 – Episode 271

Why does Step 5 ask us to share “the exact nature of our wrongs”? What do we gain from this?

Continuing our series of talks by Mary Pearl T, we come to Step 5, “Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.” I hope that her openness, honesty, and humor enlarge your understanding of this step that is so critical to our recovery.

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