Read a transcript of this episode.How have you given away your power?
Did you lose power over your life when you tried to force solutions?
How can you recover your personal power?
- Force: make a way through or into by physical strength, make (someone) do something against their will
- Power: the capacity or ability to direct or influence the behavior of others or the course of events
- Powerful: sturdy, influential, strong, compelling
- How we give away our power?
- Saying yes when we mean no
- Avoiding confrontation
- Feeling resentment, bitterness, anger, shame
- Fighting / taking the bait / picking up the rope
- Losing track of what is acceptable
- Not setting boundaries or not keeping them
- Apologizing for things that weren’t ours to keep the peace
- Forcing (solutions)
- March 8, Courage to Change – Easy does it
- Force is the antithesis of recovery
- Trying to control drinking
- Hollow/idle threats
- Impossible ultimatums
- Working the program “hard”?
- Tom W said “I don’t believe ‘it works if you work it’. I believe it works if you let it.”
- How do we recover our power?
- The power we were born with to live our lives with peace and serenity
- Asking my higher power for help
- Al-anon Welcome: “… we find it loses its power to dominate our thoughts and our lives.”
- How Al-Anon Works, chapter 16 “A Nun finds Spiritual Peace”
- Use the tools of the program
- Slogan: Easy does it
- Let go and let God
- “I don’t know.”
- Detaching with love
- Setting healthy boundaries
- Saying “no”
- Saying what we mean without saying it meanly
- Neutral responses (see page image below)
- Understanding consequences (mine and not mine)
- Changing the way I think is real power.
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Music from the show
Linkin Park: Powerless
John Mayer: Gravity
Kenny Loggins: I'm Alright