- How did/do I live not in the moment?
- Anger and resentment – Living in the past.
- Chewing over past actions – blaming (myself or others)
- Fear and worry – Living in the future.
- What are aspects of living in the moment?
- Take care of the things I can do now, let go of the things I cannot do.
- Do the “next right thing”.
- Be fully present in what is happening.
- Notice the beauty around me
- Enjoy what is good now (instead of ruminating on what was bad or worrying about what might be bad)
- How can I practice living in the moment?
- Cultivate an attitude of gratitude.
- Focus on what is happening now.
- Focus on the people I am with.
- Listen – don’t be thinking about my agenda
- Mindfulness meditation (or other meditative practice)
- Body language – when my body is in an accepting, listening position, so is my mind.
- Positive expectations – How they can shape interactions and actions. (“Batman” episode of This American Life and Invisibilia)
- What about planning for the future and learning from the past?
- There’s a difference between worrying about what might happen, and planning for what we would like to do.
- We can and should look at our past in our inventory. We only need to let go of the desire to change it.
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Music from the show
Jason Mraz – Living in the Moment
Jay-Z – Young Forever
James Morrison – One Life
Spencer mentioned a couple of books: Stitches by Anne Lamott and The Zen of Listening by Rebecca Z. Shafir