Have you found yourself trying to do it all? Did you take care of your loved one’s problems? Do you try to force things to work out your way? Have you ever felt totally unappreciated? The 4 M’s are Managing, Manipulation, Mothering, and Martyrdom.
Join Erika and Spencer as we talk about our experience with the “4 M’s” and how the program has helped us to rely less on these crutches.
- How do/did I try to manipulate others?
- “Setting up” a situation
- passive/agressive behavior
- How do/did I try to manage and control my live and the lives of those around me?
- How have I taken on responsibilities that were not mine?
- Have I ever been called a control freak?
- How do/did I mother others by “cleaning up” their problems, by doing things for them, etc?
- How have I played the martyr. What did I hope to gain?
- What tools does Alanon give us?
- Inventory – recognizing my behaviors.
- Loving detachment
- Self care
Our topic for next week is alcoholism. Other upcoming topics include “is it caretaking or support?” and Triggers or being triggered. Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email firstname.lastname@example.org with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.
Music from the show
Pink Floyd – Mother
Taylor Swift – Picture to Burn
Depeche Mode – Martyr