Spencer, Kelli, and Swetha discuss boundaries. We all agreed that before coming into the program that we pretty much did not set boundaries, for fear that others would not respect them. Instead we got angry about violations of unstated boundaries and carried those resentments. When we heard talk of boundaries in meetings, we didn't understand how we could make them work. Swetha states “I thought they were something that other people could do, but not me.” We found ways to set healthy boundaries on our own behavior and how we deal with others' unacceptable behavior. We also found it valuable to understand where “we” end and “others” begin, because some of us felt that we were responsible for and had to control everything around us. Boundaries help us to have relationships with “problem” people in our lives, and to keep the focus on ourselves.
This is very definitely a pilot episode. It includes only our discussion of the topic, and has none of the features we intend to eventually include. The recording was done with minimal equipment, but the sound quality is reasonably good despite that. Spencer's voice at the beginning is really loud so turn down your headphone volume before you start playing it.
The topic for our next pilot episode is Powerlessness. We would love to hear your thoughts or questions on this topic. We plan to incorporate listener input into each episode as appropriate. Use the phone number in the upper right of your screen to leave a voice mail, or send us email at firstname.lastname@example.org.
2 comments on “Boundaries – Pilot episode 1”
Spencer and team. I have been listening for about 6 months. Your ministry has augmented the work from regular therapy, other podcasts, and meetings. You give me great guidance into this journey, insight into my anger, and balm for my soul. I felt the need to go back to the beginning and listen to the early work!
I very much appreciated this episode. My first episode to listen to was the most recent one. I’m ready to dive in and start from the beginning now and this was great. The content was easy to resonate with. Thank you for this podcast at such a pivotal point in my life where I had no other choice but to join SAnon and find a sponsor to save me from my own self-sabotaging. Blessings.