Spencer, Kelli, and Swetha discuss boundaries. We all agreed that before coming into the program that we pretty much did not set boundaries, for fear that others would not respect them. Instead we got angry about violations of unstated boundaries and carried those resentments. When we heard talk of boundaries in meetings, we didn't understand how we could make them work. Swetha states “I thought they were something that other people could do, but not me.” We found ways to set healthy boundaries on our own behavior and how we deal with others' unacceptable behavior. We also found it valuable to understand where “we” end and “others” begin, because some of us felt that we were responsible for and had to control everything around us. Boundaries help us to have relationships with “problem” people in our lives, and to keep the focus on ourselves.
This is very definitely a pilot episode. It includes only our discussion of the topic, and has none of the features we intend to eventually include. The recording was done with minimal equipment, but the sound quality is reasonably good despite that. Spencer's voice at the beginning is really loud so turn down your headphone volume before you start playing it.
The topic for our next pilot episode is Powerlessness. We would love to hear your thoughts or questions on this topic. We plan to incorporate listener input into each episode as appropriate. Use the phone number in the upper right of your screen to leave a voice mail, or send us email at firstname.lastname@example.org.