“A nun I know once told me she kept begging God to take her character defects away from her. After years of this prayer, God finally got back to her: I’m not going to take anything away from you, you have to give it to me.” — Anne Lamott, Help, Thanks, Wow: the Three Essential Prayers
To me, this captures the key to Steps 6 and 7. Our Higher Power will not take our defects from us until we are ready and until we ask. I have found this to be true in my life.