Oops – no episode this week

Due to technical difficulties, the episode originally scheduled for this week, Acronyms and Alliterations, has been postponed to next week. If you were intending to send your favorite acronym or alliteration, you still can. See our contact page for the ways you can share your voice or words.

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March Roundup 2019 – Episode 283

turtleHave you attended an AA or Al-Anon convention? My wife and I went to the March Roundup in Detroit, so I thought I'd give you a little trip report. If you haven't been to a convention, I encourage you to find one near you and go. Not only is it fun, but a weekend of concentrated recovery can really energize your own program.

Readings and Links

Jenn mentioned episode 161, Dancing with Dementia, in her email.

Jennifer asked about sponsorship. We've got a couple of episodes: Sponsorship (25) and Sponsorship Round Table (32), but maybe it's time to do another.

The March Roundup program can be found online if you're interested.

Upcoming

Our topic for next week is Acronyms and Alliterattions. Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your favorite acronym (QTIP?) or alliteration (4 M's?), and why.
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Mary Pearl T on Step 7 – Episode 282

Please enjoy Mary Pearl T's thoughts on Step 7, “Humbly asked him to remove our shortcomings.”

Upcoming

Upcoming topics include “acronyms and alliterations”. Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com to share your favorite Al-Anon acronym, such as QTIP (quit taking it personally), or an alliteration such as the 3 C's (didn't cause it, can't cure it, can't control it).

 

How do you trust? – Episode 281

When do you decide to trust (or not to trust) someone?
How do we trust others in the program?
What fears might stop us from trusting?

  • What is trust?
    • (noun) firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone or something.
    • (verb) believe in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of.
  • How do we come to trust someone?
    • The marble jar analogy.
  • Brené Brown on trust: (https://brenebrown.com/videos/anatomy-trust-video/)
    • We often think trust is built by grand gestures at crucial moments in our lives, but trust is typically built with simplicity and small actions. After looking at the research Brown said, “It’s very clear. Trust is built in very small moments.”
    • Charles Feltman had the “most beautiful definition of trust,” which was “Trust is choosing to make something important to you vulnerable to the actions of someone else.” “Feltman says that distrust is what I’ve shared with you that is important to me is not safe with you,”
  • What are some of the “marbles” of trust that I found in the program?
    • Open, honest, vulnerable sharing
    • “Nodding” — “I’ve been there. I know what it feels like.”
    • Members being there week after week.
    • No judgement.
    • Keeping confidences.
  • What are some “marbles” of distrust?
    • Unsolicited advice.
    • Someone assuming they know what I feel.
    • Breaking confidence (rare in my experience)
  • Brené Brown’s acronym: BRAVING (https://www.kennethmd.com/the-anatomy-of-trust-by-brene-brown/ )
    • Boundaries
    • Reliability
    • Accountability
    • Vault
    • Integrity
    • Non-judgement
    • Generosity
  • Tradition 12 “Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our traditions, ever reminding us to place principles above personalities.”
    • Anonymity is the basis of the trust that makes the program possible.

Readings and Links

We read from Courage to Change, April 3

We recommend the new book from Al-Anon, Intimacy in Alcoholic Relationships

A listener spoke of her experience in Recovering Couples Anonymous.

Another listener suggest a topic of “intuition vs fear”, which reminded me of episode 61, Intuition or God's Will? 

Upcoming

Our topic for next week is Mary Pearl T on Step 7. Also upcoming is an episode on Acronyms and Alliterations. Acronyms like HALT, FEAR. Alliterations like the 3 A's or 4 M's. What is your favorite? Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com and share your favorite (and why). Or just leave a comment right here.
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S-Anon – Episode 280

Brian joins The Recovery Show to talk about his experience in S-Anon. What is S-Anon? It is a 12-step program, similar to Al-Anon, for those who have been affected by another person's sexual addiction.

Brian introduces the S-Anon program, and talks about his personal experience of finding recovery in that program. We look at ways in which his experience parallels mine in the Al-Anon program, and how it is different. (Spoiler: it's probably more alike than different, but it takes us a while to get there.)

Readings and Links

Brian read “The S-Anon Problem“.

If you want to know more about S-Anon, or to find a meeting, visit www.sanon.org.

These books were mentioned: Intimacy in Alcoholic RelationshipsFrom Survival to Recovery, and Hope for Today.

Upcoming

Upcoming topics for next week include acronyms and alliterations. What's your favorite Al-Anon acronym? An alliteration that is meaningful to you? (3 C's, 4 M's?) Share what and, most importantly, why. Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.
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