Meditation – Episode 151

DSC_5126How do you meditate? Or, DO you meditate? Meditation is something of which many of us say “I need to do that!” “I’ve got to get into doing it regularly.” “I know it would really help me.” So why is this? What is blocking us? What good can it do us? And what ways are there to meditate?

Spencer and Eric talk briefly about their (non-)understanding of meditation before coming to recovery. We explore some of the benefits of meditation. And talk about the ways in which we have practiced it. Eric points out that the key word here is “practice.” Just as we must exercise our muscles to become competent at a physical activity, we also need to exercise our “meditating muscles.” Carrie and Patty also share some of their experience and understanding.

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Your Voice – Episode 150

StoryDo you sometimes feel that you have nothing to contribute? That your voice is meaningless? That you can’t say anything to help others?

I was inspired by this reading to say “No! Your voice matters!”

Commitment

People say, what is the sense of our small effort.

They cannot see that we must lay one brick at a time, take one step at a time.

A pebble cast into a pond causes ripples that spread in all directions. Each one of our thoughts, words and deeds is like that.

— Dorothy Day

Your voices, as heard via e-mail and by voice mail, form the heart of this episode. Dxpressing your experience, strength and hope, your fears, abd your questions.

Carrie sent a list of topic ideas, but more than just that — she expressed her experience and her doubts on each one. The topics are listed below, and I’d love to hear from you. Some of these, we have talked about before, but there’s always more to say, especially when your voice joins the conversation. What is your experience? What hope do you offer? Where have you found strength? And what questions do you still have?

  • Sleep
  • Perfectionism
  • How to rebuild trust when they stop drinking
  • When your loved one stops drinking but won’t go to AA
  • Narcissism
  • Al-Anon speaker talks
  • How our Al-Anon-ism shows up physically
  • Al-Anon slip-ups
  • My first meeting
  • Sponsorship – how to find one
  • “Came to believe”
  • Finding myself again
  • Shutting down (as a defense)
  • Recovery on the road
  • Anger
  • Carrying the message
  • Gratitude
  • Anything inspired by Brené Brown
  • Hypervigilance
  • Parenting “the Al-Anon way”

She also sent us a link to an Al-Anon speaker talk she particularly connects with. See below for the YouTube video.

If you would like to contribute your voice, please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. See our contact page for more ways to join our conversation. Continue reading “Your Voice – Episode 150”

Fourth Step Inventory – Episode 149

DSC_5860Have you done a fourth step inventory? How did you do it? Join Mike S. and David M. as they lead a workshop on using the 4th step inventory worksheets, based on the process described in the “How it Works” chapter in the AA Big Book.

There are 4 worksheets, corresponding to the 4 inventory categories listed in the Big Book: resentments, fears, sex conduct, and harms to others. Each worksheet has 4 or 5 columns to be filled in, one column at a time.

For example, in the worksheet for fears, the first column is headed “What am I afraid of?” In this column, I might list financial insecurity, (negative) judgement by others, people not liking me, etc. I should finish this column before moving on. The second column heading asks “Why do I have the fear?”. I might say “because I never seem to have as much money as I want” in the first row, and so on. The 3rd column is titled “Which part of self have I been relying on that has failed me?” It has sub-headings “self-reliance”, “self-confidence”, “self-discipline”, “self-will”, and a blank space to enter other parts of self, if these don’t fit your case. In my first row, I might check “self-reliance” and “self-discipline”. In the second and third, I will clearly mark “self-confidence”. The fourth column asks “What part of self does the fear affect?”, and has these subheadings: Self esteem, pride, emotional security, pocketbook, ambitions, personal relations, and sex relations. Again, I will fill these in from top to bottom. In the first row, I check self esteem, emotional security, pocketbook, and ambitions. In the second, self esteem, pride, and personal relations. And so on.

The other worksheets are arranged similarly. In each, you fill in columns from top to bottom, as completely as possible, before moving on to the next column. Mike and David work through several examples, and provide explanations of what some of the words and concepts mean to them. Members of the audience chime in with suggestions and questions. I feel that I have a better understanding now of how I could use these worksheets, having listened to their presentations.

Our topic for next week is meditation. Do you meditate? How? Does the idea of sitting still and thinking of “nothing” just seem impossible? Are there are other ways to meditate? Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.

 

Worthy of Love – Episode 148

DSC_0476We will discover that we are both, worthy of love and loving. We will love others without losing ourselves, and will learn to accept love in return.

  • What does this mean to you?
  • If you had read or heard this statement when you had just arrived in Al-Anon, what would you have thought of it?
    • would you have made sense of it at all?
    • would you have believed it could be true for you?
    • Did parts of that statement seem true already? Which parts and why?
  • What does it mean to you
    • To be worthy of love?
    • To be worthy of loving?
    • To love without losing yourself?
    • To accept love?
  • As you have traveled your recovery path, how has your understanding of this statement changed?
    • Are there parts you thought were true that you came to see were not true?
    • Did parts of it start to make sense?
    • Did you find a deeper understanding of parts of it?
    • Did you see that this was true of others in the program, and come to want it for yourself?
  • How do you see this gift coming true in your life today?
  • What progress do you still look forward to?
  • What would you say to a newcomer who can’t believe this could ever come true in their own life?

Upcoming topics include meditation and recovery while traveling. Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.
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Roll Away the Stone – Episode 147

DSC_9877“Who will roll away the stone?”

The story of Easter is one of resurrection and recovery. But, we need help to roll away the stone from the tomb of our despair and denial.

In Al-Anon, we find that help. It might come from recognition that we are not alone, that others have been where we are, and have found serenity and happiness despite the unmanageability brought by alcoholism and addiction. It might come from working the 12 steps, and from the tools of our program of recovery. It might come from the love and support of a Higher Power that some of us name God. But however it might come, it does come when we seek it and work for it.

Happy Easter, and may you find the recovery you are seeking. May you find the help you need to roll away your stone.

The opening reading is from the blog Nancy’s Chutney, titled Resurrection from deadness.

Upcoming topics include meditation and another of the “Gifts of Al-Anon.” We will discover that we are both, worthy of love and loving. We will love others without losing ourselves, and will learn to accept love in return. How do you see this coming true in your life? Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecoveryshow.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.
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